Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
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Hire a private investigator in the Philippines, have a pre-nup, and a very clear expectation in writing. Please note that when you’re marrying a Filipina, your taking away a breadwinner from her family.
A great talk….This advice applies to all men regardless of where they live….
My filipina wife hates me smoking. I smoke 5 to 10 cigarettes a week, may be less. I do never cheat, I am never drunk, I am responsible and an adult. I wonder why on earth me smoking SOME cigarettes is such a drama… here the answer: she wants me to become 100 years old. My wife is a nurse… I have a perfect wife since years. Just she is so damn diciplined and strict. Even for a german as me… the answer if I smoke is that weird tampoo. My answer to tampoo is counter tampoo. That can take days for a cigarette…but leaving me? No way. We wont leave eachother. Just this tampoo is getting on my nervs.
This the best video I have listened too. Thank you.
If you treat your man like shit…he will cheat…
cheating, drinking, violence, true poverty — my 4 guesses — I am 4 for 4 “true poverty” a.k.a. dead weight/irresponsible. 🙂
You often hear guys say that Filipino women are only after money. If the guy keeps offering and then not taking “ No” for an answer, it’s pretty unfair to blame the woman when she thanks you and accepts. I know of both. The one that asks for money every time she sees you or contacts you is the one to avoid, but the one that works 12 hour days and still struggles, but won’t tell you. She might say I can’t afford this right now but doesn’t ask for anything. Still if you offer to help her, if she likes you she will accept your help even though she feels a little ashamed.
Top 4 reasons if she’s not so good (from experience): 1.To play a power game, 2. To ‘manage distance’, 3. To extract a concession, 4. To ‘communicate’ a message.
great job life, ive watched a few of your videos and your doing a great job. Where do you get these pictures you show, is this the norm in the Phillipines? The women in your photos are gorgeous…
Top 4 reasons a good woman leaves a good man:
1) He is too agreeable, too nice, too respectful, too eager to please her, worships her.
2) He is too trusting, does not set boundaries for her, allows her to hang out with her “friends” without any checks.
3) He tolerates disobedience, disrespect, emotional abuse, and even physical abuse.
4) He is absolutely committed to her and told her he will unconditionally love her and will never leave her.
How does this list differ from any woman in a relationship in any western country?
That is a very low bar for men to reach. They should be knocking this out of the park.
I have been with my Filipina for nearly a year, got engaged in August. She never asked me for anything but I offered to help her early in the relationship to save her going away and leaving the kids to work. I have been sending her (yes I know to much) a thousand Australian dollars a week. This is for mortgage of $250 per week in Manila car and other living expenses. I have recently cut it to $750 to save for the wedding. She hasn’t liked it one bit saying she can’t survive. This is a huge rag flag for me, she doesn’t seem to understand what I’m trying to do, but instead thinks I’m mad with her and want to make her suffer?? I have done nothing but been sweet to her wanting to give her the wedding she wants. She’s a province girl and there’s so much I like about her and I honestly love her but feel she will break up because she thinks I don’t want to provide for her and the kids. Why are Filipinas so illogical and impractical.
ANY THOUGHT LIFE BEYOND THE SEAS. YOU SEEM TO KNOW A BIT ABOUT THE PHILAPINO MINDSET???
in my case as a police neice it’s easy for me to report to the police authority
This is why it is important to be good, loyal, and faithful in the end
Great video with sound advice. When you get a good Filipina, don’t blow it guys. They are totally different from your Western women. They are really loyal, loving, and compassionate women.
In my province of Leyte, it’s impossible to cheat because everybody knows the business of the foreigner. Even the blind man who cannot see has stats on you as I have experienced. When you have a hot chick that everybody wants, you better get your cheating ways out of the door
The filipina I met has a dad that’s irresponsible. He took money his daughter saved to buy then a house and got scammed out of the money. In the past he ruined his wife’s sari-sari shop.
Ya…and then there’s those guys that still play video games and can’t stay off their social media accounts. To me it’s about the same because their not giving their full attention. What it really boils down to these days is, men aren’t real men so woman can’t be real woman. Some things need to stay old fashioned.
I believe all that is stated here is accurate. Now, state the other side. There are always two sides to every story and I know of the other side as well
Yes they would leave like that,but would about both women knowing about each other and living in the same house and they both agree to be with you
Wow Rique, you sure have improved the AI images here. Great advise as always. Take care.
THEY ARE INSANELY JEALOUS !!!
Better option comes along
This might mean if you become long term ill and cant keep the bills paid, off she trots ! ?
Hey Reekay are you using Dal-E-2 to generate these images?
That seems to apply universally.
Its a total SHAME the women in America are NOT like this – The women I’ve dated in the past 9 years age from 45 to 54 years old – There all divorced with kids and CRAZY – On the first date I get questions like how big is my house or what is my income – Maybe I’ll take a vactions to the Philippines one day
Bravo! A message many western men need to absorb.
Henry, what would you say is the reason why many good Filipina women put up with these traits in Filipino men, but not foreigners?
Either way you slice it, it’s MAINLY about the money.
NOT LOVE!!
She’ll stay abused with a scumbag with money
and
she’ll leave once the threat of money going out of the family budget into some other Filipina’s hand.
MONEY $ MONEY $ MONEY$.
Females must accept polygyny with high value men or lose….
The truth ALWAYS COMES OUT. Come on, guys. GROW THE FUCK UP.
It doesn’t really matter wheter you have those bad vices or not, a woman will leave your ass even for being too much of a great and responsive guy. Damn you do and damn you don’t.
I don’t drink even socially anymore. Been on the loosing end of a cheater so I know how that crap feels so I won’t do it. Never been an abusive person so that’s not a problem. The only issue I have is that I smoke cigarettes still..
I love the photos of all beauties
Whether it is a Filipina or a good woman from other countries, these 4 factors (and others) will cause women to leave a man. Besides cheating, alcoholism, smoking, or taking drugs, I would add a difference of religious values, financial instability, and a lack of love, attention, and respect for each other.
All these will take a toll on the relationship or marriage.
Thanks brother that was great
So true. And the first step is to take an honest assessment of yourself and have the integrity to correct any of these short comings. A lot of the “work” required in a happy marriage is on yourself.
After she drains him financially, she’s gone, and/or he ends the welfare to her extended family. Women, in general, tend to monkeybranch, not letting go of her present option, until she’s secured another (usually better option). She can also be emotionally abusive with tampo, and continuing to nag him after he says no (again to her financial demands). I believe a once province girl–now entitled princess–won’t leave to go back to the province, unless the abuse is severe. A good relationship will not have these issues, as both parties are able to work things out.
Focused and clearly communicated. Thank you. Addictive behaviors, disrespect for others, immaturity, self centeredness, reckless abandon has its consequences. Some never grow up. I met SE Asian women hurt by men like that. Somehow they don’t feel how it can traumatize and confuse women. The SE Asian women I met are smart and don’t put up with it once they’ve seen it. I encouraged them to love themselves not to put up with poor behaviors
Another home run video, thanks mate. What AI are you using to generate these absolutely stunning images of women with? I fall in love with them every video I watch. Lol thanks again bud
I know gentleman of this blog (such great content) says do NOT tie yourself down to a LDR before coming to the Philippines. I plan to move there next year. Come and meet women, he says. Date. Give yourself time. And I know that is good advice. Excellent advice!
But I’ve met a wow woman. We get along really well. She is not the most beautiful, but she is cute and stylish. She doesn’t have the best body, but she is slim and cares about her health. She does not come from a rich family, but from a solid one. She is young (31), but has always had preference for older (I’m early 50s, handsome and in excellent health). She an old soul with a youthful passion and sunny outlook on life. Most importantly to me, she is highly educated. She has a PhD (yes I searched and can read her profile and her published research online) and works for a public university as an assistant professor. I also have a PhD, so intelligence is highly valued. She also lives in the province in a region with less poverty than average. She states that she has had 2 partners in the past plus one LDR for a couple of years.
So straighten me out good people. Tell me I’d be crazy to put her aside and give myself time to meet others. Or tell me I’d be crazy to attach myself without seeing what else is out there. I appreciate all suggestions!
My wife and I have been together for almost 22 years. Our paths crossed in Canada when I worked in Health Care and she was an OFW contract Caregiver. We hit it off and the rest became history. Those four points were never part of the equation in our lives and now we are happily retired in our condo in Davao. Three years ago, while still in Canada, she was able to start a beach front resort in Pantukan, Davao de Oro, managed by her oldest daughter. Now she can be more active in running it. To make a long story short, any single or combination of the four points would have been disastrous to our relationship.
“… take a bullet for him” is allot more than I can say for the typical American woman w a husband w no vises. Thats no guarantee over here. Many woman here are too entitled, independent, self-important to stay w a good guy, respect and appreciate him over time. 80%+of the time its the wife that files for divorce in US. she gets half his stuff and thinks she can find greener pastures – then realizes too late shes too old and unattractive for any decent guy to want. You and I both speak from experience here. Great income, nonsmoking, good dad, never drank, cursed, nor saw other women, faithful, Christian, but she still filed; traumatized kids, took the finances, left. years later she is now broke on government assistance, kids have little respect for her. Regrets too late what she lost. Filippinas seem smart enough to know how to appreciate and care for their man – for life.
Filipina belief to there big instinct..so beware if you are cheating..they silent follow and observe you once you’re change even a very little… She gonna leave you
I’ve been watching Philippines vids for years. If got say the age gap, they say the women want the maturity, do not Philippine men grow old? Also wanting a light skin baby’s, maybe. But in my opinion it’s all about economics, if the country was first world country and the economy was good, do you honestly think a twenty years old would hook up with a 70s year old? It’s all about the money…
I don’t encourage any of these behaviors on the list in this vid nor display any of them myself but if they want to leave let them. I think going over there for a long term relationship/marriage is just folly, especially when divorce is illegal in that country. Enjoy spending time with them, treat them with respect and take care of them while they are with you. That way if they want to leave it is on them and not because of your behavior. Another big problem is too many men come to that country with little or no experience in marriage and long term relationships and jump right in simply because they can. Enjoy the Philippines for what it is and don’t complicate your life when you don’t have to.
Testify enrique, testify
Hi Rekay, Your very right about that. My family have really taken my filipeno lady into the family completely. We are getting married in january here, and my sister is over the moon helping her with the wedding, and is so excited that she will have a new sister officaly, she already thinks of her as her sister. I have never felt so loved or cared for my entier life. She keeps saying she is so lucky to have me, but I think I’m the real lucky one. My step daugther even likes her so much, she wants to be at the wedding and invites us to their events and not her real mother. Later we will have the church wedding there for her family, and I will send you and paul (old dog) an invite as well.
Funny but so true about a drunk guy great advice Reekay really enjoying your videos on Filipina relationships
You are right of course, just want to add, this door goes both ways. I’m married 22 years to basically a good woman, but after all these years of putting up with her binge drinking, when I do walk out that door, she knows why, she already knows that’s going to happen.
Sounds like all the same reasons as in any relationship, anywhere.
Yes they don’t want guys who are lasing.
Good advice bro. Im thinking that a full grown man should know all of these things.
What I like about Filipinas they will not stay with a man that is good and will leave. I like that they have decernment because if they stay. That man may not make a good father or husband
Yes the friends family and coworkers can be the assassins of the relationship if you’re caught! lol
Don’t do it guys.
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Yup, happened to me in Peru. I had a dte with my girlfriend at 8. I got into town at 7 and found a friend from Lima visiting with his stunning Peruvian model. So the 3 of us are sitting outside a local restaurant drinking. When my friend went to the bathroom, I was left sitting with this stunning model. I thought nothing of it. But, in just a couple of minutes, I was seen by some of my girlfriend’s girlfriends. At 8, I picked up my girlfriend and all he’ll broke loose. I solved the problem when I introduced her to my friend and his girlfriend. Beware.
Engagement
1. Cheating / side chicks
2. Abuse (physical or emotional)
3. Alcohol /drug abuse
4. Irresponsible (not being the leader; not paying the bills; she can’t count on you)
I had all these qualities, I didn’t cheat, didn’t smoke or drink, supported my stay at home wife financially, built my own house, run my own business and she still left me after 24 years being married. I forgot to mention – she was an American woman.
I don’t drink or smoke and never did drugs, so those issues will never be a problem for me and thanks for the advice as I’m in the process of retirement and may be 18 to 24 months from exploring the concept of coming back to the Philippines to stay, been to a few places already and I understand about the “honeymoon” phase of coming there but I fell in love with the culture back in 2008 and now I’m having the itch to come back
you never go full retard