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Author: Reekay V.

Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.

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  2. I am 56, never been to the Philippines, want to marry a girl with no kids about 30 qtns, 1- what is the chances to find a Filipina with no kids at this age 2- I want a Christian one what do you think of small cities girls and can you suggest some cities

    1. Bald eagle, your chances are good but I’d suggest staying off the websites. Get a month off work and just go there. Go to smaller cities like Iloilo City. Head to the mall and talk to girls working at stores (such as Watsons) and working at restaurants. Dont be afraid to ask if they have kids when you get the phone number. Be wary of scammers but generally, you will be fine. Your target age will be in the 20s. I also think hanging out near universities might be an idea.

  3. the problem with that is. it doesn’t cost a filipinas any money to be on the sites. anyways. so it doesn’t matter what site you get on. There’s a lot of players that’s all. B Street smart. if you get married then make sure you get a prenup.and you can absolutely buy a piece of property there but you have to do it in a lease. but you’ll will be dead before the lease is up. so it doesn’t matter.and then build the house you can put it in your name. You would be in better shape all the way around.if you want to give it to your Filipino wife when you die put it in your will.listen if your 50 and over you can’t afford to make any mistakes. If you do not do it this way and you get burned it’s your own fault. . be safe? Your heart can lie to you. Most of us have been there.and to be honest with you I can get a woman here in the states so I don’t make the money I used to so it would be a lower-quality woman. I hate to say it that way but I am a very honest person. And I say it how it is.but I’ve been alone because I’m making myself be alone for the last six to seven months and I absolutely love just having a gal friend not living with me.thanks.for lisaning.

  5. So, what about those women scammed by men?!! I was a victim bfore but I’m more wiser than ever. Better focus ur eyes on Jesus first and make urself better.. the right person will come at the proper time when u least expect it.

  6. Boy, did I get burned by a girl I met on Christan Philipina! Married her THEN found out she was pregnant , at the time of our marriage by another guy. Kept in the dark by her, her family, by everyone. Be careful! I am now just ending a relationship with a nut job met on another site. You are lucky if they start asking for money within a few chats. I am not sure I want to involve myself with another filipina and I have lived here for 3 years. You are always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

    1. as i’ve said to myself and others many times, “there is no love without risk.” it’s always a matter of mitigating that risk down to a manageable level.

  7. Oh my God I should have looked at your video before I started on this dating dating site I’m already out of hundred bucks I wish I could speak with you

  10. reekay, always keeping it real and informative. thank you sir. much respect from Manhattan nyc

  11. Thanks for the video Reekay. Dating sites used to be an excellent way for guys over 50 years old to find sweet Filipinas. Or I should I say they would find you:) But now, over the last year or so, it’s very difficult to find a top-quality cute slim sweet honest girl on a dating site if you are an older guy. Why” Because unlike before, in general, the Filipina want guys under 45 years old and many want a guy within 5 to 10 years of their own age. Either an older guy is only being contacted by someone older or overweight or the younger girls who contact you only want to take advantage of you or are prostitutes. Conversely, if you are a younger guy dating sites are better than ever.

  13. Yes. If you are 10 years without entering the dating scene, or in a rebound, you will get eaten alive in Cebu or Manila trust me. I flew from afar to meet a woman and she was a masterful sexy 21 year old player, I learned how things work. Don’t be naive!

  14. Your advice is sound but people will often not listen because lots of guys are just really lonely and need to “feel” like they are in a relationship, even if they are not… There is also a whole bunch of Men with “White Knight/ Savior complex” syndromes.

  15. Absolutely not, it is full of scammers gold diggers and mostly want money not relationship. Just wait till you get there!!!

  16. Definitely NO ! Most are prostitutes or want a free trip into town. opportunists at best. 30 to 40 years ago you may have stood a better chance but not today!

  17. It’s a little off comment but that is a incredibly beautiful backdrop behind you you have a great website with a lot of a good Intel have a great day

  18. I met my fiancee on the FC dating site before the pandemic. I’ve been back to the Philippines to meet her and her family. It all went really well. They are loving, generous people. Unfortunately, the pandemic has made return travel difficult, for the time being. So we video chat daily. If you go to the dating sites to find a good Filipina, you can find her. Yeah, there are scammers, too. Sure. But keep an open mind. There are a lot of good, decent women on those sites. Sometimes the challenge is to find “one” good Filipina with so many other great choices. God bless the Philippines and Filipino people. ❤

  19. My thoughts: Dating sites destroy the joy of “hunting”, flirting, courting and seducing! How ever, for girls living in rural areas it coult be a chance to find somebody, although the chances in dating-sites are not bigger to find the “right” one. The risk of disaster is always on both sides!

    1. i agree. although you still have those elements when it comes time to meet them in-person.

      but it’s kinda like comparing fast-food delivery to a home-cooked meal. ‘convenience’ versus ‘substance’. 🙂

  20. Great info. I used those sites, and yes: so many scammers. And time consuming with all those fakes. Sexy photo models can and will find rich attractive guys wherever. They will not register on asian dating etc… at least not looking for love and companionship on such places. Of course you must pay for membership, in order to use the site properly. Hundreds will attack u.

  21. Some of those scammers are from English speaking countries. Try talking to them in Tagalog and its screws them up lol

  22. I agree, “Boots on the ground” is the best way. Had lots of bad experience online dating

    1. it’s hard to beat face-to-face, reach out and touch interaction. virtual can’t compete with that.

  24. Very very good advice and I salute you Sir. Please can you provide with TWO GOOD DATING SIGHTS

  25. Choose one that is Church going, simple, sweet, innocent, and chat, video chat, and know her better than you know yourself. A good choice never asks for help.

  26. During covid, I have talked to 100s of pinays on PinaLove and I found my young beautiful province princess that I will marry in 2021. Open that border.

  27. practice practice, if you are not in the world of chat with Filipina or never date a Filipina in real life there are 90% u get scammed, with the stories of the phone, the story of the food, the sick, never send money to anybody, they also sent you videos live and pictures naked for money, and the sad that all of them exist they are really cute Filipinas…practice practice Filipina want to be chased for you, let chase you but u know that they will send you tons of pictures and videos, in my experience I chat with 700 Filipinas and more and just one I met…practice and take care dateinasia still good but just in level of 70%

  28. Good advice for anyone. Be realistic. No one gonna have their fingers in your wallet unless you want. This gonna be up to you as usual. I belive a Filipino in general are hard worker. Theres a scamer in the Whithouse, so maniacts gonna be every wear.

  29. what you said i should have heard long time ago but i also had so much fun doing all my mistakes ,bjorn spain

  31. Very good, sane advice. I too have been there and done that. As he said, 90% are bad news for you. Take your time! Talk to hundreds and evaluate each one. Most are habitual liars, have boyfriends or husbands, looking for someone to fund mom, pop and the in-laws. Be careful and proceed slowly…. You fall in love with a bad girl and you have already lost your ability to reason. She will rape you emotionally and rob you financially. Having said the above, there are good women to be found in the Phils.

  32. Hi Reekay, I have been chatting online with my Filipina since April, I am making plans to visit her in the Philippines for the month of January 2021. However I doubt that I will be allowed into the country, I’m from the USA. This COVID-19 will probably get worse here. She suggested that if I’m not allowed in her country that we should meet in a different country in south east Asia. I was surprised that she came up with this idea. You are a well traveled man if you were in the situation which country would you choose to meet in? And do you think she would have a problem flying solo into any of these countries?

    1. Keith, I would not travel to any country right now. You could get stuck by a country closing borders again, or your return flight could keep getting cancelled as things change. Don’t risk it, for you or her.

  33. I found GINA on a dating site over there years ago ,we are building a wonderful life together in the Philippines

  34. Why send money? Yes this covid19 is here now . Yet the asking of money has always been way before covid19 started.

  35. Excellent information and right on the money. I get a kick out of some of these women trying to play me, lol. Not to be cocky thinking I can’t be played yet I have been around the block enough to spot scammers/red flags.

    Very accurate info you provided. Much appreciated.

  37. Extremely entertaining this part! Had allot of fun Reekay! All the best there , greetings from a rainy Holland

  38. Best video yet, and must see watch by men. Sex blackmail is real, and Philippines is greatest place where it happens. As you venture into this new world, make sure all privacy settings are right on social media. Once you give out email or phone number (whaspp,viber etc..) you likely have it searchable on FB. They will find your account, and may find friends and family. Do not let a embarrassing video happen, and be blackmailed. It happens, and can be the scariest time of your life. take my word for it and I’ll leave it there. I wish more would get this out there.

  39. Yes ..you are true I was scammed also by a pretending US military army and said that he has a Pilipino blood I’m not searching for a partner but just a friend to chat with . I was honest to him about my situation here in Japan separated have 2 special sons and we are working only 4 hrs a day but still scammers don’t have heart . It’s a lesson to me with this experienced .

  40. I’ve been a member of a Filipina dating site for one year now and it’s been nothing but frustration. Sure, I had contact with 100’s of Filipinas, but I’d say less than 5 were willing to have a good conversation that is beyond short sentences and were at least halfway interested in me (and even those didn’t ask much about me). Maybe it’s my high expectations and the different culture, I don’t know.
    I agree it’s better to chat shortly and then meet in person, but what other options do you have if you are not retired yet and can visit the Philippines only 3 weeks a year?

    2. You are absolutely right. Very difficult to get these girls to carry on any informative conversation. Expect choppy, undetailed responses and then after only a minute or two they are bored and moving on. They size you up very quickly and move on. Don’t get discouraged, but you will probably have to step on Asian soil before finding what you are looking for.

    3. @Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea And I guess that’s not all. Another reason they’re so short-spoken might be that they are swamped with other messages and probably also their natural shyness.

    4. your experience doesn’t surprise me at all. i believe even an estimate of 85% people being insincere is still a conservative estimate.

  41. The best advice I ever heard.I ended up in a emotional relationship with a beautiful lady and started sending her money regularly. Honesty, I was going to wire her few hundred more tomorrow but after watching this blog, it opened up my eyes. My sincere thanks Reekay to you.
    Admitting such mistake publicly makes me feel better.

    2. Why send money. ? Like Reekey said you send her money ? You only know 2% of the real her.

  42. Hi Reekay. It’s been a while since I’ve checked in and said hi. Your subject was very interesting and you covered it well, but I thought I would throw out that I found a site accidentally that allowed me to easily find a high-quality Filipina who was a real keeper, indeed! 🙂 I discovered OKCupid a long time ago and really liked it because it offers the advantages of a free site, as well as the advantages of a paid site. All accounts are free for a guy’s barebones account, which allows one to see a tremendous amount of interest and other behind the scenes info in the notifications it offers. Also, the real identity of all are hidden and real identity can be revealed if one purchases a membership. This site allows a guy to do detailed real searches to his heart’s content, free of charge, and also allows a Filipina to not be vulnerable to stalkers and undesirables. A guy can surf endlessly using any attributes he is looking for. There is a huge amount of info one can enter in one’s profile by answering questions and being able to write freestyle to reveal an amazing amount about what you are actually looking for and who you are. The Filipina has the same options, so it is easy to make very detailed searches of potential matches and keep real identities hidden until one actually needs to know how to find the real Filipina if she is also willing to reveal who she truly is. Only then must a guy pay for a membership to actually exchange identifying info. I took my time and ended up finding a real keeper, but being Dutch, I am extremely frugal. They make it very hard to exchange real personal location info without buying a membership by disallowing the “@” symbol and many other things to intentionally make it extremely difficult, but for me, it was a piece of cake to pass the info in a way that bypassed their automated system’s restrictions to get my contact info to her, to use at her own discretion. After that, we communicated for months through Messenger and video messenger. We have now been engaged for a full year, and I am waiting for travel restrictions to be lifted so I can fly out there and stay with her for 3-6 months, before bringing her back to the US to be married. 🙂 So, my tip is to try using OKCupid free of charge and make full use of all it offers to enable .. and allow very easy and detailed searches… and let the women find you. If you can find a real keeper, all it will take, at the most, is the purchase of a temporary month to month membership to exchange real independent contact info. My advice is to be thorough in filling out the huge profile to indicate exactly what kind of woman you are looking for and exactly who you are. If you are honest and straight forward about your priorities, your profile will do a lot of the separation of the chaff, making it fun for a Filipina to learn about who you are first, and then make it easy for them to come to you! Cheers!

  45. If Boobs are sticking out and she is Hot and scantically clad is that a red flag?

  46. No thank you. My wife would kill me. Lol I’ll stay away from that. But I did meet my Filipina on FB.

  48. Facebook dating no longer available on my phone.. hmmm… good thing you used it when ya did!

  49. Watch for scammers who tell you:Its their bdayhont hint, need medicine for their kid, tell you they need a medical procedure…. drop them like a bad habit!!!

    1. Watch for stunning beautiful girly boys that can fool you in a heartbeat. Contact their friends list to find truth.

    2. it is statistically amazing how many random filipinas just happen to be having their birthday coming up.

  51. Hi Everybody!! My wife’s Filipina friend would like to meet a Foreigner. She’s around 34 years old never married. Reply so I can provide you with her info.

  52. I met a few scammers on FC but I only blocked a few of them. Why? Because I found it entertaining and educational to see the various methods they attempted to use on me. It was funny seeing the pics of broken phones sent to me. “Please only 10,000p to fix?”. But a couple of them did eventually get belligerent and abusive so I had to finally block them.

  53. Meet a girl about 5 days ago on Cupid, just txt. Yesterday I said would you like to video, she said yes and gave her Fb & and an App info. We txted (she was pouring it on thick, honey, baby, sweetheart) and I said let me know when ur comfortable for video. Next her world is coming to end. She’s sad because doesn’t know what to do to get money for load. I told her she was a smart girl and would be able to figure it out so she should go and get that work out and we can talk later. She promised me she was a good girl and very happy to meet you “Dear”. I said well talk latter when she can and said have a good day. Next I blocked her on both. The End.

  54. Reekay, cool background, looks like you are traveling…… without going anywhere. LOl. Great content as usual. Where the sharks go to eat, yup. Lol

  55. I completely agree, yeah I found a few good ones online, but sifted through 50-60 of them. There is one I’m still friends with and another dating, were looking to get married. But the other one she knows were just friends. But due to covid… i have on my own sent her a few dollars here and there. My gf i do monthly support but i have a video on this. Thanks again for this video.

  56. A huge red flag is if a woman on any dating site and from any country wants to send you nudes etc after knowing you for a few days. Just like the “nice” guy who wants to immediately take a girl shopping to Gucci on their first date, there is an ulterior agenda. Women know that if they turn a guy on physically and can manipulate/stroke his ego by making him feel sexually desired that he’s pliable to her plans. Women without agendas won’t naturally want to have such an intense sexual relationship immediately (unless she’s drunk) with strangers.

  57. There is no dating website that is fully stocked with good people, period. As you’ve said before regarding scammers in OLD (both male and female scammers), the platforms have made it so much easier for the bad ones to be really bad. It’s very easy for these people to appear like perfect matches because all of the information you have going into getting to know them is all positive self-proclamations (“I’m the sweetest girl you’ll ever meet” or “I’m a nice guy who isn’t is a user”).

  58. As I am sure you should say, “try it if you like it, but be careful”. I met my wife on a dating site. I did standard procedures. If they ask for money, they are done. If anything during the conversation is contradictory to a previous (obvious), dump her. Don’t send her money until you meet her and only if you are comfortable with it. Do not send more than she would have normally. Make sure you have talked with her online before you get to this point. Talk to her about your goals, her goals, her wishes, your wishes, her family, your family, her (family) finances, your finances. If there is a conflict, you two are likely done. Does she want to go the USA. Can she adjust? Does she want to stay? Does she want to take care of her family? All of this you should know before you come to visit her. If you impregnate her on you first visit, remember that she can have her family (unofficially) confiscate your passport and sue you for rape/coersion. You will not be able to leave until serious issues are resolved. I don’t think all these issues are addressed on this website. It has happened on other vlogger websites here.

  59. I would recommend dateinasia as a place to start! Easy sign up-free-met a few nice women (not scammers) and they have this nice feature when someone sends you a message and if they are too old or a scammer you simply hit the X in the left hand corner of their profile and your profile is hidden to them! Also they have women from Thailand too! Good luck my ex pats, BBQ

  61. There is nothing you want on the dating sites, unless you are seeking a separated woman or women with children (again they are probably separated). It’s all chaff. You won’t find anything there. The only way to do it is chance meeting.

  62. Dating sites are to be used using common sense and digression. Never send any amount of money to anyone.

  64. Haha, so true. For men, there should be a lobotomy available for their limbic system. A lot less money would be transferred from one gender to the other that way lol

  65. Ive been thru the dating site rodeo lol it was fun for me because I already had years of dating site experience in the USA. Here are some other red flags for Filipina, that you can spot in an instant:
    1. Dyed hair/blue contacts/bikini pics in profile (the normal Filipina doesn’t do this, dyed hair or bikini pics is a sign of a girl that has a lot of “experience” with foreign men.
    2. 18-99 age range. A woman really looking for a serious relationship will have an age bracket narrowed down. A Filipina that just wants any man has questionable intentions.
    3. Very good English with lots of slang. This is another sign of an “experienced” Filipina, it shows she has had lots of communication with English speakers usually men. Whats bad about that? Well that girl has been partially westernized already and not worth your time.
    These are only red flags if looking for a serious relationship, if you are just looking for a good time then a week or 2 before you head over search out these women, they will not disappoint.

    2. @Bob Bruce I don’t think the word condom exist in the Philippines lol I’ve never heard a Filipina ever mention one. I think if you are planning to be an expat then no need for sites at all. Walking in the mall will do mostly, a site could help if going to a lower population area.

  66. Fantastic content & delivery, so so much common sense.
    Guys, take note of this guy, he’s bang on in what he says.

  67. Something I did several months ago when I was feeling a little lonely cos I wasn’t able to go back there (I was there for a couple of months just before the “lockup”) I started a profile (can’t remember the site) with no photo or info about myself – just a bare profile and lo and behold you would not believe how many women sent me messages telling me how handsome or cute etc I was and wanted to chat with me… hahahaha

  69. Why use a dating site? I just randomly text Filipinas on Facebook messenger. Does the job and probably less likely to run into a scammer. Not to mention it’s completely free.

  70. Solid video Reekay. If you aren’t in the right head space you definitely shouldn’t be on those dating sites.

  71. Yes, the scammers are everywhere.
    I recommend baiting a scammer. Learn the warning signs from a pro who thinks they’re getting something from you.
    I did a lot of scam baiting. It helped me recognize it when I found someone sincere.

  72. While covid 19 travel restrictions are in place give the whole idea a big miss. You may as well be writing to someone in prison, at least you’ll know when they’re getting out when you can see them. This shit could go on for years.

  74. I spent years 20 years following Reekays advice to slow down any approach online…but every Filipina is going to default to love chat and exclusivity and way too many guys online are going to reflect the same back to them. So anything online is going to get you…I love you….to which I return “lub lub lub u too….muwaaah” and that means something like “smoochies and GOODNIGHT” – ONLY giving good EMOTION back but not any definite words. Every adult knows you do not fall in love online. You need to act like an adult and you need to treat her like an adult. Do not let her “FETCH you” at NAIA…get checked in and showered and rested. Then meet her fresh…and you start from DAY 1…and you progress by days…day by day. Filipinas are great at leaning forward…but no one can meaningfully commit at warp speed…and if you let it happen…90%++ chance you will have painful miscommunications. So I am really close to Reeks advice except that if you are going to dance online…its a DANCE…don’t dance if you can’t flow with that environment and do a bit of emotional tango and tangle. But nothing really starts until you’re feet on the ground. I would assume I am meeting someon as sharp as Filipina PEA (on youtube…take a search here)…and be prepared to prove yourself day by day.

    1. If she is as sharp as the “the pea” then you had better watch your ps and q’s 🙂 Enjoyed your comment.

  76. If you have never been in the Philippines…and you must find one or two before you land…I would suggest you chat a couple in voice chat….so you are hearing true Filipina voices and have already made that adjustment before landing.

  77. Love Reekays life by the numbers…but mine might be a bit simpler in this case…if you look in the right places once you are in country…you could easily do 1 in 2 or 3 for 33-50%. Your chances online are about 10 – 20%. So you’re 250 – 300 % better chances in country. If you must, get one or two right before (less than a month) you come. Kita kits.

  80. Solid gold advice….I’ve lived here now for three years and what you say is in fact……

  81. Step back and look at this again. Scammers are all over the world, every country, every age, every sex.
    For guys wanting a filipina, you need to play the game the same way you would at home. Would you give/send money to a woman you haven’t met in the West? I seriously doubt it. If you would then you really need to sort out your head.
    I just tell them, ‘Sorry, let’s wait until we meet and see how things work out. And we can move on from there.’ If they don’t agree that’s a HUGE red flag. Adjust your course appropriately.
    Best to go to the Philippines and meet the women there. After you get to know them, then decide… but I would NEVER get married there without a SOLID pre-nup. Why get married in the first place? It’s obsolete based on a money grab from the Church.
    Save your money, live with her for 6mths and keep it wrapped so no ‘surprises’ come up. Then decide…personally, I will never marry again.

    2. Same. Marriage is a scam against men. But in the case of partnering with a foreign woman, it can greatly expedite any travel plans you might have. Co-insurance etc. I think some or most of those things can be handled via other legal means. But it’s definitely worth considering if you have any future plans of traveling together or obtaining your spousal benefits. Foreign bride is the ONLY exception to my rule.

  82. Nice video ,many Philippinas say many sweet things ,but mostly all false and fake ,the poverty push them to do so,the guys are looking for fresh meat ,and they look for better life ,,imagine if Philippines is a rich country ,do you think ,they will date old men ,never.,

    1. Yes it’s pretty obvious that an older guy has a much better chance of dating a younger attractive woman in a poor country. That’s why they go to the Philippines. It’s a win-win situation. The young Filipina gets a financially secure life and the old guy get’s a hot younger woman without the feminist baggage of a Western woman. I can’t blame either one of them for seeking a better life with each other.

  83. Heeeyyyyy Reekay,l enjoy this type of video,like the good old days when you started out.when you were just a boy,hehehe.

  84. Reekay, thank you for what you do, great advise. Your on point,….always appreciate your channel.

  85. Forget the websites, just use Tinder with the region unlock feature and you can focus on specific areas around the Philippines. Most of the girls on there I have spoken too are looking for relationships and not using it as a hookup app. The high churn rate gets the scammers mass reported and banned real quick. Lots of educated middle-class girls on there as well.

  86. Hi Reekay,this vlog is priceless,you have summed my early experiences on dating asia,you are the guru on this subject.Online dating definately leads to obsession ,you ignore the obvious just coz this is your so called “princess”,tgank you x

  87. I met what I believe to be a most extraordinary Girl on Christian Filipino, My approach was simply to state I was looking for a long term relationship, but we must start as friends learn about each other, then see where it might lead. Sure their were the scammers, usually girls who wanted to take you off line immediately, but what I was not prepared for was the number of what I consider good, honest, attractive girls who responded to a simple. “Hi how are you.” I was busy most days and evening responding to them and learning about them, and them me. I did not video chat with any of them, but got to know many. Finally asked her to chat,planned a time, unfortunately for whatever reason where unable to connect. Knowing my video skills are limited, but after a couple days we found a spot. I shared much of my personal life with her, and she with me. not all sunshine and roses, but enough for me to believe she was honest and real. We have been talking, chatting, and videoing 3 sometimes 4 time a day, She even awakes at 1am 2 or 3 times a week to video chat, her connection is poor. We have agreed to meet when I can get to the Philippines, and it may sound weird but my feelings for her grow. daily, not once has she asked me for anything, and always thanks me for my time. While understanding we must
    meet and share time together, she may be the one for me. If anyone has any information that might help me secure a visa it would be greatly appreciated. I am aware the borders are closed, but I want to be first in line when they open your kind consideration.

  88. Another thing you can do, is have a trusted friend check them out. I had a friend who would contact them. He would tell them you saw them on a dating site if she didn’t flinch at that ,it was a red flag(she probably has multiple accounts), I had one checked out, with in 20 min. she was showing body parts, asking when he was coming to the RP? How long he was going to stay? She would spend the whole time with him. Talked to him for over 2 hrs. He sent me a transcript of their conversation. I ended it immediately with an email . A couple of months later he introduced me to my now wife, Through his talking for several months with her best friend. We chatted for 7 months (almost every day, only 3-4 days during that 7months, without a text or a 1-3 hr chat session.). She only asked once for money to buy medicine for her father. And she could not bring herself to ask, her friend told my friend . We met and spent 3 weeks together. I met her family, father, aunts, uncles . We have been together for 13 yrs and married for 2.5 yrs now.

    1. Bob Bruce Thanks,good advice for people still looking.
      I got a good one already.
      As I said,we have been together for 13 years.We got married in Feb.2018.
      I think the best thing to do is use the “buddy system”,you find an expat/foreigner friend you can trust,you both start talking(not playing)and learning about different filipina’s and also learning about their friends who may be looking for a “foreigner spouse”.

    3. The first(and almost the last time) I went on,it was either FilipinaHeart or FilipinaCupid,within 5mins I had 100 filipina’s trying to chat with me at the same time. And 5 min’s later,they were all gone because I could not keep up.
      Then no one would talk to me for 3 days,when the filipina mentioned came back.
      The websites are definitely “Buyer beware” for both parties.

  90. regarding online dating. to find a serious filipina is very difficult. dont know why. serious thai and indonesians r much easier to find.

    1. I was on filipina cupid for 3 months and I found several beautiful filipinas who were serious. Wasn’t difficult for me. But I wasn’t looking for 20 something year old kids either so maybe that made a difference. I settled on one 35 yo filipina who has never asked for money and even refused when I offered to help pay for the load she was using with our video calls.

  91. Hello Reekay that is such great advice as everything you said is so so true and it’s a shame people are like that especially females but males are too.!!!!!!!!

  93. A question – Thanks again Reekay’s for your helpful videos!
    My question is when a decent women refuses or limits you to see her on video chat, it is because she has low self esteem (without makeup etc)I . or just doesn’t like you! I notice if a woman almost always accepts video chat, she likes you and feels comfortable in her own skin, whether she has makeup or not?
    I had a bad experience in TL-on thai cupid, long story short-met this lady last year we video every day for 60 days and share photos but the problem was she always had make up on the videos and the video only showed her face in any event she was about 50-60 pounds overweight! Guys please be cautious ask for a full shot body photo recently photographed! Also there were some videos she sent me when she was walking but she always held the camera on top so I could not see her body! Peace BB

    1. Barnaby, any online woman should be ok video chatting within a week of first talking to you, and often less. Shes hiding something if she refuses. Also, just because a woman agrees to video doesn’t mean she necessarily likes you.

  94. Reekay,

    I can tell you from years of personal experience: you are 100% correct in everything you say in this video. I’ve seen it all, and still managed to meet good and honest Pinays. Actually, after a while it becomes very easy to detect the scammers. Now most of the time I can even spot them before I contact them just from their profiles. The bottom line is stay away from a Pinay that seems to be in a rush. Only invest your time in patient Filipinas who are employed. (Any job is fine, as long as they are working.)

  95. Very well said Reekay! I enjoyed watching this video and hope many people listen carefully to your wise words. Keep up the good work! Cheers.

  96. Great advice as always Reekay, sites can be useful, if used properly and with caution. It’s not really a good time to be getting too involved with girls online. There is no telling at the moment, after making initial contact, and collecting phone numbers of girls that interest you, when you will actually be able to meet in person, which is the only real way. A couple of things to bear in mind, many of the girls, maybe 80+ %, will be single moms. They might well not be scammers, but they have a really hard life, that they want to improve for themselves and their child/ children. There are many desperate people out there, particularly at the moment, who are barely surviving. Just never commit emotionally and certainly not financially, until you have actually spent a decent amount of time together, and properly assessed the situation.

    1. Well a single mom is certainly not for everyone, but I’ve met some great single moms that are single through no fault of their own, and been really nice girls. Filipinos are famous for getting their girls pregnant, then running away from their responsibilities. Each to their own, but keeping an open mind is worthwhile.

  98. As we all know, you’re probably the most experienced vlogger and social media expert on these topics. Great advice and your point about the girl admitting that she was just looking for money to pay for annulment and has no intention of staying with that “stepping stone” guy, is spot on. We have all seen the expats or guys in USA get delusional about these girls they meet on dating sites. We have seen guys that have “relationships” with some girl that they have never met in person and think “she’s the one” and basically sponsor her. Let’s face the facts, you’re just her Fan and you’re paying for her attention.
    True many Filipina’s are desperate for a better life, we all know it’s a hard life in PHL and it’s not like the Filipina’s have a lot of options. If they lived or grew up in USA they wouldn’t be on a dating site seeking men 30 to 40 years older. That 60y/o that finds a 20y/o should realize that he will inevitably be the “stepping stone” guy. Maybe not immediately but when he dies, she will be a 35y/o widower and now have the money and lifestyle she wanted and probably choose a man only a few years older.
    The bottom line, is exactly what you said. Don’t be a fool and look at reality.

  99. Boots on the ground. This one girl couldn’t send me a million pictures so she was using the site to message me like every minute. Block. Ask for money? Block. Say I love you? Block. I don’t think I’m ready for ldr so it seems a waste of time. Peace ✌️

  100. ʀᴇᴇᴋᴀʏ, ɪ ᴊᴜsᴛ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ sᴀʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀʀᴇ sᴘᴏᴛ ᴏɴ. ᴛʜɪs ɪs ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ɢᴏᴏᴅ ᴀᴅᴠɪᴄᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ɴᴏᴛ ᴊᴜsᴛ ғᴏʀ ғᴏʀᴇɪɢɴᴇʀs sᴇᴇᴋɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀ ғɪʟɪᴘɪɴᴀ ʙᴜᴛ ғᴏʀ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴏɴᴇ ʟᴏᴏᴋɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ɪɴ ᴀ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴsʜɪᴘ.

    ᴀʟsᴏ, ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ sᴀʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴇɴᴠʏ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴠɪʀᴛᴜᴀʟ ʙᴀᴄᴋɢʀᴏᴜɴᴅ, ᴍʏ ᴇʏᴇs ᴡᴇʀᴇ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴅʀᴀᴡɴ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ sɴᴏᴡʏ ᴍᴏᴜɴᴛᴀɪɴs. ɪ ᴡɪsʜ ɪ ᴡᴀs sɪᴛᴛɪɴɢ ᴏɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴄʜᴀɪʀ ʙᴇʜɪɴᴅ ʏᴏᴜ, sɪᴘᴘɪɴɢ ᴀ ᴡᴀʀᴍ ᴄᴜᴘ ᴏғ ᴄᴏᴄᴏ.

  102. Hello Henry and great video! I started going on dating sites back on 2017 like Asian Cupid, Filipina Cupid, Date in Asia, etc. I would only sign up for a month with each one and eventually “met the right one” when I signed up again in March 2018 for a month. She is my Fiance, and worked as an OFW in Singapore. She is back in the Philippines and hope to God to see her next year after this pandemic. Yes, I plan to marry her there (have a resort style wedding) and bring her to my home in the USA (have a court wedding only).

  103. Met my girl online in 2013 at 24 on filipino cupid. Met 10s of new women every single day. Asking for money was instant blacklist. Any sympathy searching was goodbye. If they didn’t seem very interested over a couple of days, bye. So many new ones would contact me or reply every day that there was no reason to stay in contact with any that seemed suspect. I was in no rush to meet a person for a relationship. So I’d make clear that I’m talking to others. Over time I had people I talked to for weeks, then months, then picked one and stopped talking to other people.

    Going from western sites to that site was such a huge thing. Go from talking to one person a week to hundreds a week. I agree with self control and being in a good mental place. However, there are so many trigger-happy fish in that sea that it should be really easy to throw em back. I met many that I really liked and just talked to them a long time. The one I chose was not the best choice objectively but was the best pairing to me ever and I’m sure I wont find the same again.

    I met many genuine women and worked it down to the ones who were definitely interested and not just looking for things or too emotionally damaged. If they are agreeing with you on everything it can take a long time to figure out their actual views on things. Just gotta be able to read people I guess. Many filipinas fall fast and become blind for a while because of it.

  105. Everybody browsing the dating sites should pay very close attention to Reekay. You simply need to hear this first!

  107. Great advice for any dating site never mind just filipina, 20 to 35 is nothing compared to the 100s you’ll get scammed by being ignorant to the red flags.

  109. Great video, wish I had seen this before I went to FC, still I learned quick. Eventually 200+ became one after filtering between people who were genuinely interested, scammers, and those who just wanted out of FC and didn’t care so much who.

  110. I love the mountains background. Your advice is timeless with regards to the dating sites. Too many men don’t know what they want and get sucked in. Maybe they need to get burned badly in order to wake up. They will be fortunate to have come across your channel. I’m glad there’s guys like you telling us like it is. It saves me a ton of money and headaches.

  111. Ex Pats,
    First off, control your “Thirst”. Don’t be thirsty, anxious and practice patience. Once travel restrictions lift, it is practical to contact potential Filipinas online a few weeks or 1 month prior to your arrival. Following this method, which Henry discussed in past vlogs/videos will prevent or limit any nonsense. “Boots on the Ground” is mentioned here in the comments…Meeting in person will certainly help you properly “vet/get to know” Filipina ladies.

  112. Henry, this is the type of video that you are at your best. Straight forward info that people can apply to their situation. I think one of your callings in life is to teach and instruct. Thanks for the great video.

  115. Great vid bro. Personally i never used the dating sites so i dont have clear opinion. How are you guys? Cant wait to get there. We can have lunch and discuss war and women. The ways of 1 and the wiles of the other and the similarities of both lol. These guys would find GREAT BENEFIT from your early vids. They DURN SURE helped me out back in 2013.

  117. Great advise. As a guy gets more serious with a Filipina and is considering marriage would you recommend getting her checked out by a private investigator in the Philippines before bringing her back to the US, or could that backfire if she finds out and destroys the trust ? If so do you know of any services to recommend ?

    1. @Ride4life Fit4life in the USA it doesn’t work 50% of the time with American women. Anywhere you go you take your chances. At some point you just have to give it your best shot and hope for the best. Unless you’re content living alone with animals. At least the Filipinas are usually more attractive, younger and have less Western feminist baggage than the local land whales.

    2. Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea we see a lot of guys that “throw the dice” and get engaged and K1 visa that girl that they chatted with then only spent 2 weeks together in the Philippines. We know of a few that worked out but let’s look at the facts. They got to USA and their life and their families life is 10x now that they have an American husband and started a family. One of our friends has already had a heart attack and probably won’t see his kids 5th birthday. The other couple is younger and having their second child.
      The bottom line is the man need to take his time to know the facts. Some leave it up to chance and sometimes it works but we all know that many times it doesn’t.

    3. if already considering marriage, and having spent a year getting to know each other.. i’d say that the CENOMAR check (from manila) is all you’d need at that point. a person can give you their impressions of her based on her social profile, but by the time considering marriage, should be past all that.

  118. Dude you are awesome! You hit it on the spot. I just joined filipinacupid and exactly what you said. In 3 days I got so many potential scammers it’s crazy. I wish I can show you my dating profile it’s epic. I basically said don’t contact me if you have kids blah blah blah. And I still get messages. I can spot a scammer right away the obvious ones. My rule no video chat no go. Again I think you’re awesome and I hope we can meet one day when I make it to the PI.

    1. Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea yeah there’s even a picture profile of Sunshine Guimary in there. It’s crazy

    3. it’s overwhelming at first. but having criteria to weed out the bad apples makes things easier to manage.

  119. After being scammed by youtube & facebook on this COVID-19 thing, the last thing you want to be doing is going into a relationship blindly online. Better to see her in person & get to know who she really beyond the smoke & mirrors. If she can’t handle masculinity, GTFO. Don’t waste your time being emasculated by a feminist. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

  120. Kid’s in a Candy Store!!!!
    Get your Head out of your azz
    Drop your Macho Pride
    Don’t think you know everything
    If there is such a thing as a Good Divorce…. We knew we were Divorcing 1yr ahead of time..
    I had a opportunity to marry a Filipina 40yrs b4 My 1st marriage. So as current marriage ended I decided to go the Filipina path… I spoke to Expats, Ex Military, Older Men who have been down the path… Then I paid for a Full Year on a Dating Site and Only Talked to Older Filipinas: 40yrs plus and had good conversations and learned their culture and their knowledge of the Filipinas around them….
    The Rest is History…..
    Reekay’s Great Video as Always

  121. In my opinion unless your already there….no point really unless your just wanna look at pictures. “Boots on the ground”…females are always on thier phone, what shes types…and who she sleeps with every night are 2 different things. I signed up within an hr i had 25 msg’s in a day 200…does it help me or them…

  124. I have never been on a dating site. I met neneng on Messenger & we chatted 10 hrs. a day 7 days a wk. I wasn’t looking for a GF and she was the first Filipina I ever chatted with. 10 months later she picked me up at the AP. in Cebu. That was 2 yrs., ago. She is also the first Filipina I ever met in person. Actually, I was working in Cybersecurity at the time we met. I do agree with most people you are correct, the only thing you didn’t mention is women get scammed by men online too. We R both happier then we have ever been in our lives.

    1. Mr. Ron, you are telling the truth as women do get scam as well because a couple of Filipina told me that.!!!

  125. Some guys are damaged from the past and carry baggage of mistrust and animosity that they may carry over into the new relationship…so fix yourself first…great video Reekay

    1. Scams notwithstanding considering the poverty. Upon meeting someone truly I/s/o companionship be sure you share the same values, get to know and understand their situation. Many good women in the country but have relatives in need. I find Filipinos have differing views of managing resources. Make sure you have the necessary understanding and still be prepared for cultural misunderstandings.

    2. Some are damaged. Some were STUPID and are wiser now. Reekay mends the STUPID and feeds the WISE

    4. the biggest misconception about ‘love’ or a relationship is the idea that it will solve one’s problems.

      loving someone is a giving action. gotta be in a good-place internally to do that.

  126. I actually met a Filipina online in the early 2000’s thru Yahoo Messenger Chat. We only chatted once a week and after the third time we chatted using a webcam so I knew she was real. She was 8 years younger than me and I wish I could have met her in person. To this day I wonder what could have been. I did go on FilipinaCupid and my number one rule was I was NOT going to give anyone money. The ladies I did “meet” asked for money so I blocked them. Maybe you are right, just visit the Philippines and start talking to a few women at the mall and see what happens.

    1. @Bob Bruce I know your statement sounds negative and demeaning, but sadly it is for the most part true.

    2. @Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea I admit I am on dating site Christian Filipina and my purpose is to find my purpose partner. It’s just sad to note some that I met there were perverts but I am not losing hope. I still believe that there are still good men on dating sites just like with women. We just have to be patient and keen enough.
      I am a single mom to a 22 yr old daughter. I have my profession and my job is a stable one and I have my own house as well. Even without those, I would never scammed anubody for I believe in karma. I am sorry if there are pinays who scammed but there are also some pinays who are working abroad as domestic helpers who were scammed by some foreigners. So not only pinay women who scammed but also foreigners. I have experienced that but sorry for them for I know how to spot a scammer so he would get nothing from me.
      My advice to some foreigners here who wished to find pinay for a partner, find a woman who has a job and who is not 20 years or up younger than you. I am not generalizing them but it would be advisable to get involve with a woman who is near your age. A 60 yr old guy having a 20 or 25 yr old woman or gf? Come on! You know what I mean.

    3. I did dare a fillipina from Yahoo chatroom. But we ended it a few years back. Got my wonderful fillipina bride from fillipinacupid.com and I did pay the extra.

    4. Thats my philosophy of life. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination cause when your sitting back on the porch chilling. I dont wanna have regrets for the things i could have tried but didnt.

    5. walking up to a filipina and meeting her in person is the optimal way. but due to covid and work-schedules, online dating becomes a necessity.

  127. Great advice Reekay. Before you became wise to dating sites, have you ever actually gone through a bad experience with a Filipina on a dating site?

    1. @Reekay’s LifeBeyondTheSea Thanks Reekay. I friend alot of hot Filipinas on Facebook messenger and the first thing they ask for is a load then I ignore them.

    2. in the ph, i didn’t use dating sites to find a relationship. except for 1 date that i met on Tagged, and we stayed together for about 5-months and are still really good friends.

      but if i just wanted someone to hang out with at last minute, i’d find someone online and meet her at the mall within a few hours. never used it outside of the ph.

      the few times i used an american dating site in california.. (4 times), three times was a disaster.

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