Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
Share with me my ongoing adventures of life in the Philippines. Hopefully you find my observations helpful in your own adventures.
— Reekay
“ she leaves him for a younger, richer guy”
Is the problem because of a hot young filipina? Or is it really because he’s an older man with little money or prospect? It all comes down to trust. If I don’t trust her in the States, why would I trust her more in the Phils? Personally, it’s either I fully trust her or not at all. Maybe it just takes time together to gain assurance.
The marriage falls apart when you bring a women to the West. If she is young, it falls apart quickly. If she is older, she will stay with you a little longer just to secure half your assets. The Western culture poisons everyone. Stay in the Philippines, you will be happy. Support her in-laws, support her siblings, whatever, it’s still worth it. You will be in the catbird seat when you are married in the Philippines!!!
Would you bring your MUCH YOUNGER Filipina wife back to the U.S. one day?
How is your book writing coming along?
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Well, many relationships are transactional, he give her what she needs and she give him what needs. They may have some love for each other but not really bonded feeling this is the “forever” person. Nothing wrong with that. Yes, it is wonderful if people are really bonded together and until death do you part, but few are people really are made that way. The main problem that I have seen with failure of of the relationship/marriage after the guy brings the girl to the USA. That she is now dual culture and thinking more like American women do which is very often no longer the cultural values the guy has been attracted to to start. Add to that when she makes Philippine friends in the USA they very often encourage her to step up and get a better guy based on things like makes more money, is more handsome matches ages etc.
When I brought my Filipina Dentist to Canada, there were several guys on her. In fact, a couple tried to sabotage our relationship. But she was 100% loyal to me and would always pass on the guy’s business cards to me that she received. We accumulated a 3″ stack of them which ended up in the trash.
Wow Reekay, you’re really taking the wind out of my sails! Though I get a lot of vacation, and it’s easy for me to travel, I work full time in the US, so living in the Philippines, to get to know someone, is just not an option. I was hoping I could find a solid Filipina and bring her back to the US on a K1 visa, and have a strong prenup. For Americans living in the suburbs, with established families, there can’t be that many single young guys hitting on a guy’s Filipina wife, right?
Like you mentioned before, who holds the power in the relationship. Once you bring her back to the west, you lose the power.
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How do you get medication filled there? I have blood pressure med , do you need to have a doctor there prescribe?
The whole idea of getting a woman from another country, then bringing her back to the country you don’t want a woman from is just idiotic and self sabotaging. Think guys common now.
What you saying is so logical and makes so much sense.
as always the voice of experience, straightforward, wise, commonsensical, actionable, and enjoyable. thanks 🙂
I want to have them as a girlfriend on a US tourist visa, so if she decides to bale, she can and I’ll just get another. Do you know of any firms that can push through a US tourist Visa efficiently?
Marriage is high risk, low reward for men, low risk, high reward for women. So don’t marry. Heck a man effectively disinherits his children when he remarries.
Never bring her to your country
Never bring your flippina princess back to your home country.
They turn into workaholics and send all of what they earn back to the family leaving you to foot her bills.
Do everything you can to NOT bring a Filipina to your home country.
A long time ago there was a content creator who was exactly like you described. He was a far older guy married to a younger woman. To
make a long story short, the younger woman burned him. Left him with a alimony and child support debt and this was after he helped build a house for her family in PH.
His vids mostly consisted of him bashing his ex and PH women in general. Needless to say his channel was flagged to oblivion and he hasn’t been seen since.
He was a living textbook of what not to do.
Each person will have their choices as to bring them to their own country or move to the girl’s country. My choice is to have my future wife (however old or young she is) move to my home in the USA.
I am disabled and NEED my continued US medical health insurance (Medicare AND Medicaid) by my side and NOT any mediocre health plan nor health insurance from any other country, not to mention having to pay upfront for any emergency nor having access to certain important medications! NO WAY!
*If you take her back to the US and she divorces you, then the US family court has jurisdiction.*
The Red pill community has been saying this for years, It’s just too legally dangerous for a man to do that. Its best to leave the US and never return.
I’ve just met a really cute girl and I’m flying over there soon to see her.
I’m not retired yet. There is no Philippino community here in South Africa. She’s 30.
What should I do?
Dont do it
So true, don’t take a Filipina out of the Philippines
I made the mistake of bringing a Filipina from Camiguin island to the northeast of the US , we lasted only for 4 years and ended in a ugly divorce. Learned from that and If anything I will go to the Philippines and live there and met someone after I integrate myself into the area where I will be staying
Eddie Murphy called it in ’87 in the movie Raw. “Eddie, I want HALF!!”
First of all, if men marry Foreign women with out knowing them for a minimum of living with them for 3 years, they are both crazy and lazy.
Secondly, her family keeps her in check, so I would not bring her back to America with out them.
Great video Reekay. I’ve had probably 25 employees in my long career who were Filipinas. In the past few years they have told me if I meet a Filipina or other young Asian female, do not bring her to the US. They all went through it but US women see them and the pressure is intense to acclimate to US women’s mindset and ways of making decisions. One of my superpowers is I listen! Since I started going to the Phillipines, I’ve had expats ask me for advice about their Filipina relationships. I’ve told them what are the questions they are too afraid to ask, and ask those questions. All of these guys’ relationships have gone bad. I’ve been more conscious to ask those questions and it’s amazing what women say. I remember one time I asked a women what is her nickname. She said “hot head!” I chilled when I heard that. She was very cutesy to cover that. Later that day I needed it. I ask questions in different ways to find out how she thinks, makes decisions, deals with problems, whether she’s emotionally stable, is she a rage-aholic, etc. I’ve saved myself a lot of grief. There’s only two speeds to my dating – slow and stop.
Reekay, how about taking a Filipina to another SE Asian country? Is that another feasible option? Thank you again for your efforts. They really help.
Only a FOOL would give up his power to a woman. Going back to the West with your Filipina is essentially giving her ALL the power. You’ll get screwed.
The worst part is when a girl, gets to the US leaves the husband soon after and then turns around and try to go after his pention, house, and everything else.
Do you hear from a lot of guys who are happy and not having any issues? NO? Why do you think that is? Because they aren’t looking for help. Yes, you hear the negative but don’t hear the positive. That’s just the way of life. You should take that into consideration AND explaining this in these videos. My wife and I have been together a LONG time in the USA, and we don’t have any issues. My key takeaway is this: KNOW YOUR WIFE before you bring her to your home country.
The problem is so many men want this innocent girl who has little to no experience and they take her to their home country… then they learn things and that’s where problems happen. My wife has dated other foreigners before me… she’s been to other countries before meeting me… she’s very strong minded and talked to HUNDREDS of Western men, so she already knew her value. We also lived together in the Philippines for over a year before moving here. My wife was 23 when we met. She wasn’t innocent, she was smart, knowledgeable, and knew what she was getting into when we started dating.
So, don’t waste time with innocent, naive girls if you want them to come back to the West with you.
Gio in the philippines was talking about that in his podcast bringing his wife back to US.
I am the “get to the Philippines and live there for the rest of my life” type. The US has reached a tipping point in my opinion, and I doubt (short of a civil war which no sane person wants) it will ever going to go back to the decent country it once was. (I’m not delusional: I know the US was never perfect, but it aspired to be.)
As a retired sailor who was deployed to the Philippines in the mid-90’s I saw A LOT of sailors and marines there who dated what seemed like good Filipina women, got married, went to the US at the end of the guy’s deployment/time in service, then the Filipina spent just enough time to secure their US citizenship and divorced the guy and took everything they could. (I know of one example where she did on the very next day after getting her citizenship…had the divorce papers all ready to drop on the poor guy). The sailors I know who had truly successful marriages that lasted after they took their bride home were the exception, but they are also some of the happiest guys I know (and, if my memory serves, their wives were older than 30 at the time of marriage).
Great video and good advice, mate! Thanks for sharing!
I guess I’m the rooted guy. No way am I ever going back to my home country. Living retired here in the Philippines is freedom to me.
It’s a mistake to bring them to the u.s., just saying.
Who is making all these photos on the video ??
Marry her, have CHILDREN with her. Be married a few years – before you consider bringing her to America.
You really need to be living with her in her country for a while.
Go overseas to find a good woman and bring her back? WTF?
How do you think western women got so bad and intolerable?
Are Filipinas immune?
Of course not.
There is no point in finding a non-Western woman and allowing that same woman to transform into a modern Western woman.
Great advice. What’s your thoughts on finding a Doctor or Nurse in the Philippines who wants to move to the U.S.? I’m almost 68 years old and would like a Dr. or Nurse to look after me as I get older. My wife passed away just over a year ago and I’d like to find another Filipina. I think it’s best to meet a Dr. or Nurse. What’s your advice? Go to the Philippines and hang out at a hospital cafeteria or the closest Starbucks? Probably the nearest Jollibee. Lol!!!
This happened in Cebu. A really attractive 22 year old did the whole “I’ll see you in 10 days when my husband leaves” and it took me for a loop mentally. I was like damn, Cebuanas are ruthless! But I met another Cebuana days later who was an innocent woman and the total opposite
Wise and great value words !!!
That’s a no and a terrible idea. Subjecting women to western ideals n drowning them in feminism will result in a western feminist. It’s unfortunate, but if u want a Filipina to keep her values, u gotta stay in the PH.
Excellent vid !! From day 1 I always said I would never take a Filipina out of living in her comfort zone here & bring her into a hornets nest back home. Many girls don’t seem to have high esteem to begin with maybe related to culture, then when they start to receive all this attention,praise etc. & put up on the pedestal it seems very hard to deal with it imo.
I would bring mines back for visiting only.
age gap is a big item. 10 year may work out, well at least 3-9 years. remember the 10 year rule on asset split and alimony here. keep your savings and property separate. hold back on sending big money to the island. plan on a separation. enjoy her while you can.
Great advice