Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
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Good lesson didn’t think about the chat part of it wait till boots on ground. Thanks again.
“willing victim” sums it up.
the guy doesn’t want an argument over money, especially about doubting her word, so he keeps sending it to hush her up and keep her smiling at him, even though the smile is not genuine.
Outstanding reflections.
One of the most insightful explanation of why men, hundreds or thousands of miles away, will send their hard earned money to someone who they never actually met face to face.
It hits me like a train, because at one point in my life, I was one of those men that you incisively portrayed.
Loneliness, longing for companionship, desperation, naivete, excitement, recent break up, all these factors play a part in this scam.
Love, or the longing and search for it, is such a powerful emotion, it causes sane, rational, smart, individuals to do irrational, mind boggling, schizophrenic acts.
This is proof that humans are driven primarily by their emotions rather than reason, and explains the roots of the gullibility, insanity, deception and misery that all of us fall through.
Only lonely/desperate men get involved in such a thing as LDR!
LDR: a woman you’ve never met in person.
It’s completely ridiculous!
NOT something a healthy, thinking, calculated man ‘d do.
I just wish I could help my fellow men and stop them from doing these kind of things.
Dont do that guys. You wont give anyone here money so why would you give some woman you cant touch money?
It is innate in all guys to ‘rescue’ as it makes us feel good. Scam or no scam. However, it very sad when guys are taken in big time- that stupidity and so sad.
I have sent smaller sums knowing that l was being used but we had great conversations and it cut both ways.
Aren’t we all so fragile and complicated at times. We all do irrational things but that’s how it is.
When it comes to this, there’s a simple rule. ‘Only give what you are prepared to loose’.
Idk I only sent money the one time it was something like $50 and I felt like I helped. So to me it was worth it. But I have seen a few people send way too much. And I just don’t understand it.
Very true. Some guys send money because they are hurting and have no purpose in their life. No Western woman will accommodate him and even though he knows it’s a scam, he continues with this arrangement because she makes him feel important, loved and accepted.
We all need someone and this is why guys send $50 a month (whatever the amount) which won’t really break the bank.
As you said Reekay, there are many reasons.
Sad but true.
I would.like to send the AI girl some money.
Another factor I think plays a part in these men sending their money, is the affordability. It’s easy to convince yourself to send a foreign love interest $50 or $100 a month for rent or school because you can afford it. I guarantee these men did not give rent or school money to the w0men they dated in their home country, because those costs are high relative to his monthly income.
Your videos provide so much value.
It goes along with your last reason, but many of these lonely men will never come to the Philippines. So, they probably feel like they’re paying for entertainment like a cable bill or streaming service.
Great analysis! Sometimes it’s just entertainment because as you said loneliness. However, unicorns do happen just not often. They don’t ask for money. Maybe just maybe you find a real one! I’ve been told by real Filipina’s from the dating site whom I am not attracted to and their advice is “don’t send money” then you will find out who is real. If they like you they will keep chatting. Keep the gifts small! It’s likely going to a good cause. It’s all a fantasy until you meet in person and get boots on the ground.
Great content as always! I’ve been in the Philippines for the last several months and YES I have experienced this first-hand with some of the women I have dated here. Question and topic for a follow-on video: How can a man now living full-time in the Philippines vet potential girlfriends who have in the past or are still getting funds from other men? I’ve come across girls who get their rent paid by married western men who keep them on the side like a mistress, using them every few months to take a s-x vacation, and the virtual girlfriend daily texting, having separate phones; other “daddy’s” in their lives, sending them money, without the other guys knowing, etc. I’m definitively looking for girls who have good families, but some Ph women seem to master this ability to compartmentalize multiple relationships at the same time which is a huge red flag for me… if they can do it now, what’s to keep them from doing it later.
Spot on…great perspective. Alot of people don’t realize how scandalous most these Filipinas are. The Filipina I chatted with for a year was literally laying next to another man as she chatted with me….I knew she had a baby daddy that she lived with…and the guy laying next to her wasn’t her baby daddy…
Also…Filipinas will chat with you about excited to see u when u come to the Philippines but thats also game…they really don’t think u will come here….so many guys say they will come but don’t.
Anyway…when I first got to the Philippines Filipina I chatted with didn’t even message me for 3 wks. I was busy in Manila exploring things.
Finally I told her I’m coming to pick u up where we always talked about meeting at a bridge in her barangay.
We met but she was completely shy and wouldn’t even look at me once she got in my car.
Anyway it was all lies and games to her …..I see that now by her actions.
Today, we still chat…and I’m highly sure she has grown to like me…if not doesn’t really matter to me, because I don’t give her any money and we have amazing sex…some times up to 6 times a day.
Right now she is back at her house with her baby daddy but she is ready to come visit me again..
One last thing…I have her username/password..she is scamming like 2 foreigners. 1 from the USA and 1 from Germany. She uses the same technique on them as she tried on me. Guys, don’t trust these Filipinas and definitely don’t send them any money.
Listen, we do all have our own reasons… I did send small amounts of money to several girls, maybe $5k total at a time in my life when I felt quite alone. I looked at it as a form of charity in return for companionship. It was before my early retirement years when I was earning a mid 6 figure salary and not an issue at all. I’m sure I was used by more than 50%, but in my mind I saved a lot more than if I got into, say a physical relationship with a stripper or maybe someone I would have met at a bar. This enable me to continue producing at a high level with not feeling down or lonely, and well worth the cost.
03:55 I had to bookmark this time stamp. Wise advice, I believe.
I love that be yourself
I too was a white knight and gave generously, but soon learned that they were not sincere. I just returned to the US from a 18 month stay in Thailand. That’s an another lesson learned. This spring I’ll be heading to Cambodia or the Philippines, somewhat hesitant of going to PI due to the skill set of the women scammers there.
Guys that send $$ to someone they’ve never met? Plz don’t complain, plz don’t say u were scammed. Just be a big boy and take responsibility for it
Romance scam, different but same in the end
My woman has two kids and has had a hard life with two kids having been left by her husband. I think it’s going to work out so I send her a small amount of money. I don’t expect anything. If it doesn’t work out so be it. Having the engagement with another human being keeps me sane as I go through the struggles I have to work through at the moment. The last woman was a blood sucking parasite ironically introduced to me by my sister in law. I look upon it like you said there’s girlfriend money and there’s wife money. Set boundaries and keep to them.
Absolutely Never,Never send money until you meet filipina in person in the Philippines!
She may or may not be cheating. Hard to say but probly is. However she maybe really poor.
Actually you can’t blame anyone for poking around out of curiosity on these dating sites.
You can chat all you want but until you actually meet, you have absoluetly nothing ! What I have done myself when they start talking about how poor they are or claim whatever, I simply tell them that is too bad and when their financial situation improves contact me then. There is always a “next” !
Where do you find all these beautiful philpina ?
Valeu!
Got kinda deep on that way!! Shit! Lol
I could see quite a few people falling for the online dating scams, at least people who don’t watch your channel (or who do watch and don’t want to listen). “Wait until you get here.” is a very hard rule for lonely guys to follow, especially when so many women are willing to say whatever is necessary to open their wallets. 😉 Love the channel.
Learned my lesson many years ago. A cute online fantasy Filipina was coming to see me in California but first needed money for a passport, luggage, new clothes, a plane ticket…etc. I told her I didn’t know how to send money, but oddly she already knew ways to make it happen. The lesson cost me $400 before realizing I was in school.
I fell into the layaway plan with my Thai wife. I had asked her to marry me first and began the K1 visa at the time I began to send money.
The latest episode of “The Filipina Pea” discussed this exact issue pursuant to the perfected methodology of a Japanese scam artist. Ver interesting.
So, is number five really a victim. Or, is it just a financial transaction?
My story is so much what you said , if you want to interview me , I will be willing to share my story for your audience and will talk about it on my audio podcast
Ha! This is how things were developing with me. Internet den of thieves. These girls can be up-front and persistent, or very subtle. It’s fascinating even knowing it seeing the pitch working on me. No resentment, mind….the reality of poverty is what it is.
facts facts and nothing but facts, 100% in this video
Good information here. Guys DO not ever send money anywhere to women you have never met. Women just know how get money out of men. Know yourself and what your abilities are with women. Travel and vacation in PI first. No dating sites needed. There are so many women available there. You can’t miss. Be smart and don’t lead with your wallet. If you want to give way money give it to a animal shelter first.
Oh #3 really hit me hard.. Dealt with that situation some 30 years ago before the internets and manipulated by a Filipino..
#6 Because I’m young, stupid, two weeks out, and i want to see if it’s used for the purpose it was given for.
Wise words. My business partner died in Manila. I was in the U. S. His secretary was over 40 and could not find work after his company collapsed. I paid tuition to send the secretary’s daughter to college , computer science. She could afford “tourism” college tuition so I paid the bump to computer science. I knew them fairly well. The kid graduated and bingo mom had a pension. I visited the Philippines four times a year for business so it was legit. After graduation mom proudly lived off her kid. But I was boots on the ground.
I sent money a few times and then stopped.
They are =stupid
I like how you have exposed the “Shining Knight” syndrome, that most men do…And Filipina try their best to exploit. I hope men see this and get the message as to avoid all the heartache and scamming. I have some Filipinas online try this on me too! I tell them i do not send nor lend money to anyone or any entity that i have not met in person. Vet..check out as much as you can even a detective if you have some nagging issues believing her. Trust…But verify if you do want to support this. Too many want to you solve debt and family money problems. Peace .
“How did your day go?”
Girl: “Not good. I was not able to eat today”
Girl2: “My grandmother is in the hospital”
Girl3: “I can’t finish my studies, my family is poor and can’t afford the school”.
“Why haven’t you been online for the past three days?”
Girl:”Oh, sorry, I didn’t have load and no money to buy load”.
“Can I see you in chat/video chat?”
Girl: “No, sorry, not enough load” “No, sorry, I’m too shy”. “No, I have not had a bath yet”.
Its unbelivebel,send money too a bar girl,buy her a car,bild her a hause.The last idiot is not born.
White knight, that’s definitely not me.
We all had that woman who taught us the hard way.
Some just refuse to learn
1 only reason : idiots
Interesting.
Speaking the truth as usual.
Boots on the ground rule… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqd1ib0reks