Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
Share with me my ongoing adventures of life in the Philippines. Hopefully you find my observations helpful in your own adventures.
— Reekay
There is no soulmate, but there are plenty of soul crushing mates, we just need to avoid those and we will do well.
Finding someone to date you can tolerate! Funny but very true!
Valeu!
My personal top 5 criteria from my Thai Fiance are:
1. She communicates often with me.
2. She is traditional in nature but has hard work ethics to get those things she wants.
3. She is educated and also has a career position.
4. She is down to earth, affectionate, loving, and caring.
5. She has goals, aspirations, and a desire to make things better for herself as well as for both of us.
Top 5 dealbreakers (which she doesn’t have any of these):
1. Smoker, drinker, or a woman with tatoos.
2. A woman who asks for money.
3. A woman that is nonappreciative of what you say, do, etc.
4. A woman that doesn’t enjoy your company (online or face to face).
5. A woman that avoids you, is disrespectful, or lacks time to make time for you.
Not necessarily in any particular order for each group but things I thought of while getting to know her online and already being with her in person.
There are good options and there are bad options but there is no THE ONE.
Reekay, bad personal hygiene is the deal breaker for me. I can’t tolerate chronic bad breath or body odor due to uncleanliness.
Soul mate= Disney Movie Fantasy = Bravo Sierra
there is no life mate in the Philippines it’s all a number game to choose from.
not in the Philippines its too many to choose from its all a number game for expats.
6:54 wow. I did exactly this exercise two years ago and I found my partner. We’re now engaged and I’ve never been happier in my life.
I married my soul mate in 1991. It lasted 20 years until she died in 2011. She wasn’t perfect but she was perfect for me. When I found myself single and ready to mingle again 12 years later I found the entire dating pool and method of dating had changed.
My choice is to stay single in the USA or investigate the Philippines to see if women like that still exist.
Soulmates? No.
Cellmates? Yep.
As you know, you have been the original creator on the topic of developing a relationship with a younger Filipina and everything that you should consider in your quest for a long term relationship with someone who meets your expectations. So many expats get fetched by their online friend(relationship?)
The bottom line is the theory of soulmates and love at first sight leads to settling for someone who perhaps is not what they ever thought they would end up with and now feel this sense of obligation and stuck in a relationship that’s not what they would have wanted.
Personally, if is short term , sure you can just consider her beauty and attraction. But long term, consider her background, family history of stability and how she was raised. A big red flag is raised by a grandmother or aunt or other and not having a good influence and example of parents who maintained a home and maintained a normal family lifestyle for their upbringing. This has very little to do with socioeconomic status but much about the dynamics of the environment she was raised in.
Dealbreakers: At any point she starts asking for money/complainer/rude to others/non-self-hygienic
They should always complement your life not complicate it.
I am a new subscriber and while your words and thoughts have caused me to subscribe, I have noticed that the photos of women you place within each of your videos are without a doubt the most attractive I have seen anywhere. ANYWHERE. How do you respond to this alarming accusation? Haha
Soulmates? that is plain Bull shit..it is really a matter of being compatible is all that matters as you have to live together and get along in a domesitc situation..Beware girls with disgusting table manners, poor hygiene. attitudes that rub you up the wrong way and of course money management or greed is just another issue guys fall for girls with a bad intentions to your wallett…Choose a good girl with traditional vaues and is clearly honest and trustworthy and you have a gem in your hands even if some things are a bit ittitationg…
A couple of deal breakers: 1) Liar 2) addiction to vices (smoking, drinking, gambling, etc)
Soulmate is a mythical creature, there is no such thing; don’t fool yourself.
Classic message Reekay…love it!
L- short w/beautiful legs, affectionate, sincere, honest, God believing. R -evasive, overly moody, jealous, booze/party girl, spend foolishly. I been here since ’17, didn’t pursue 1st couple yrs., not a expert but will share my 2 cents.
I do believe some girls will only attract to u just cuz yur a foreigner & you know; u WILL find out soon enough the attitude is ” all foreigners have $$”. I would hang out & suck coffee outside at Dunkin in Mall , meet/chat w/fellow pinoy/cano cronies & watch all the beautiful girls go by. I would look across the way at the girls working in watch area of dept. store & decided at Christmas to buy a G-Shock for someone I thought interest me in our zumba dance group which wasn’t a smart move I soon found out as she was on my above R side,
As months went by me & that pretty watch tech I bought the G-Shock from across the way would occasionally smile & wave to each other. Over time I thought “why not” & decided to try to get to know her some & maybe ask her out. Well around the 2nd date we smooched & she’s been by my side every day since. We lived together 20 months before tying the knot & now have been married over a year. Love isn’t always on time (toto) & you really never know sometimes where/how u will find it…
You are so right. My mom always told me there is plenty of fish in the sea. She also said why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. In others words don’t get married.
I’ve seen 80 year old American men in the malls with 20 year old wemon. I’m not saying anything is wrong with that, but it looks like they are just renting them for a short time.
I know it’s sad to be alone. I’ve been alone for many years now. Back in America it’s even more sad when you are with someone and still feel alone.
At least the wemon here knows how to make you feel wanted. That’s my observation.
As romantic the concept of soulmates are, when men get to a certain age, pragmatism shows you it’s a numbers game.
3.9b females in the world, a little over 2.1b between the ages of eligible 18-64 aged women.
To think that you’re going to find the most mathematically compatible “soulmate” is foolhardy and operates on feminine, emotional logic.
There is no such thing.
You find the best possible mate, of the best possible competency, fulfilling your must-have criteria, and add a dash of being at the right place at the right time, and hope for the best.
I like your idea of listing your likes and must-haves on a list and splitting in the middle.
Might I suggest a more efficient and ruthless selection process?
A weighted decision matrix.
Spot-on; thank you and congratulations for continually informing/educating us all about love life in general
Live Please Sir.