Ed and Rose: What Did We Learn?

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Author: V. Reekay

About Me.. In 2011 I made the decision to move to the Philippines within a year. Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat. (Mactan, Bohol, Panglao, Moalboal, Dumaguete, Bacong, Boracay, Cebu) I recently spent the year living in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

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  2. I’ve been hookwd on 90 Day Fiance since rgw 1st season ! Following 6 Youtube reality show reviewers. Your review is the Best Accurate cause your 9 years here in Ph. I goofed to get engaged after meeting my ex-wife in person after 2 weeks in Nueva Ecija,Ph (3 months messagibg after friend acceptance on facebook. About to temp reside in Nevada 6 weeks to Divorxe after 2 years seperation & she supposedly spent last of my 401k = P2.8M in 14 months ?! Yipes !! Careful guys Not to dive-in too fast !!!!

  3. She was a fraud from the beginning. She is a lesbian posing as a heterosexual/bisexual to tap in to his resources.

  4. “Generic friendliness” that pretty much sums it up. Honestly, if a girl says she needs time alone to think after you have met in person, you should “read the room” I agree that she is 100% right. Before you even start to build a relationship you need to cover the basics, where to live, kids, career, future plans etc. Meeting someone online is a screening process before you meet in person if you actually make it that far.

  5. I think the real takeaway from watching a show like 90 day finance is to stay the heck off filipinocupid and stop meeting these women online, especially if it’s your 1st time going to the Philippines or if you’re retiring there permanently. It’s ok to get off the airplane single. It’s alright to arrive in the Philippines and not already be in a relationship. There is not much worse than the buyers remorse you get, when you finally meet a girl you’ve been talking to for 6 months or a year and you realize it may not work out, or something is off. Meanwhile you’re breaking your neck looking at all the other women walking past you that are prettier then the lady you’re with. You feel obligated because you already put so much time in. This opinion is probably going to be unpopular, but just feel it’s better to take time to feel things out in the country first, see how people are in their own environment.

    I know people got lonely and bored during the pandemic. If you do have to go online, keep it platonic and don’t commit to anything serious until you get to the Philippines and spend time there.

  6. He was selfish, a coward and a fool. This tv program just re-enforced the worst stereotypes of this process.

  7. Henry you also have to realize this is a TV show, trust me the show has a script for Ed to play along with. She wanted babies while he didn’t, the show and Ed knew this………if he would’ve dropped the script and pushed this issue of not wanting babies during the first 3 months of chatting then she would’ve probably went own her way and no show would’ve been made. In my personal opinion the show and Ed used her, it’s to keep the show going while keeping her in the dark. Sadly it’s TLC’s way of making “90 Day Fiance” money for only them while on the back of this poor Filipina.

  8. As you know Reekay if a filipina woman is in her 20s and 30s and has never had children and you as an older expat become involved with them even if you make it clear you dont want any they will still get involved with you hoping to change your mind it will never work

  9. Wise words Reekay. There a lot of sappy foreigners out there that need to hear this. Regarding Ed, he is a 52 year old narcissist that thinks
    that the only way that he will get a girl is to lie about himself. And it backfired on him….

  10. She was trying to exploit him and he was trying to exploit her. She had a valid point about him, however, I assure you she had her own hidden set of agendas, and it wasn’t based on any feelings of love for him.

  11. Not sure how true it is but the one thing I heard about this TV relationship story with Ed and Rose was that Ed got most of the money from the show while this poor girl got like 15K. This is totally unacceptable with me, it’s actually sickening for this show to take advantage of someone in her situation.

  12. Like fishing for salmon in a Texas pond. Only religious family oriented men are compatible there. Less than 1% want the child-free agnostic lifestyle and most of them are Uni grads who date hot young guys. I found the Tarik and Hazel episodes very informative too. Fatuous love for Tarik (Hazel’s attractiveness) and Empty Love for Hazel (wanted a better life abroad). For Non-family Non-religious guys, it’s only short-time paid fun. Peace.

  13. She knows at his age she only has to spend 2 weeks with her then he has to go back his country for work. She is playing a game for riches, is my opinion.

  14. Most affection I get from my filipina, is hold hands. Oh yes, I forgot she likes to pinch me in public. We have been together for 6 months, before she goes to work kiss is always hiding in the house behind the curtain to kiss.

  15. Reekay, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE PRICELESS!!!! hehe I love it.

  16. I watched the entire episodes. He was a miserable man hungry for love and she was a kind looking for opportunity. That was not love. They both looking to get something from each other.

  17. Ed just needs to lose some weight and he will gain his confidence back. He is kind and not bad looking actually. The mouthwash thing was a clue that the girl probably doesnt tske good care of her oral hygiene and has bad breath. Good luck, Ed. You deserve someone better. Much better. She’s not worth it.

  18. That relationship began aboard the Titanic! It seemed okay at first…. But then it began to sink right inside the airport terminal!

  19. there is one more filipina/american couple that has been featured on the show as well. just as comical, just as pathetic. I have watched the vast majority of episodes. these producers choose the oddest matches they can find and then exploit the hell out of them. I do wonder what the compensation is from TLC.

  20. You’re good at this Reekay. You should do more of these as it was very entertaining. I don’t get how an older man can be so clueless but so many are and your advice might save someone’s life (literally).

  21. I could only watch a few of them…..I would do the same thing and yell at the TV. I just couldn’t believe how dumb people are so I just stopped watching. The cringe factor was so horrible……..

  22. No neck it’s funny how she looked him over a few times. I saw these on TV in the PH lol.

  23. Your analysis is spot on Reekay. These two both made mistakes with Ed really making the more important or significant mistakes by not being honest and upfront with Rose. I think Ed knows he’s not the most attractive man so like a lot of men like that, they exaggerate, overcompensate, and leave out important things because they feel inferior to an attractive woman.

  24. Shows like that give me a migraine headache. Makes me think of the word barf. The whole American visa system is a disgrace.

  25. The best outfit he could find was a black T shirt – great first impression. This program appealed to the worst sides of people and was all staged trash.

  26. I always make it clear with the Filipinas i chat to that i can’t have kids anymore almost straight away, i already have 3 grown ups and after the 3rd child had a vasectomy so i guess that narrows my options in the Philippines.

  27. Very well said my friend, I agree 100% in your analysis of Ed’s mistakes. Communication, honesty, and compatibility is the beginning in having a relationship. Thank you for your videos.

  28. Henry , While you’re in California can you look up Big Ed and give him an interview? I would love to see him answer your questions.

  29. Sadly he needed Constance reassurance which showed he has a very negative self concept. Just like naming himself Big Ed. Look at how many guys & vloggers in the PH don’t want kids and the girls/women will say its not important (perhaps they think over time she will get him to change his mind) and that becomes a reason for breakup.

  30. Was so funny watching these two. Women will be women but Ed catfished her in many ways.

  31. With a Filipina, Honesty is Always the best policy. “The Truth will be reveal.” Don’t be sad though, because there’s always another beautiful Filipina right around the corner.

  32. You are so right. I been with my Filipina for 3years I go too see her and I came back to NYC we are planning to get married over there when I retire in 6 months for now we keep a beautiful relationship and repeat and most importantly we love each other very much and she has 2 kids which I love very much ♥

  33. He is a Dick! It is men like him that messed up for good men. He needs to be alone. I hope this experience turn her away from dating foreigners.

  34. The bisexual/tibo/lesbian experience is the much bigger story…if you’re truly open minded to hearing experiences / desires…its 1/3 pluuuuuuusssssssss… Welcome to the Philippines SIR…more FUN NA PO! 😛 Enjoy

  35. I’ve never been able to watch these so-called reality shows I think Gilligan’s Island comes closer to reality than these shows do.

  36. You are right, first he can’t see past her beauty, and as far as him not being completely honest up front, no way this is going anywhere

  37. There’s only a handful of mistakes in the Phils….and the millions of people that repeat them…over …and over…. Thanks for saving me 10 hours…Great commentary.

  38. Filipinas who want to be with you… want ONE thing…to BE with you…and BE ADDICTED to you…anything less is pa asa…FALSE HOPES.

  39. You are right on Reekay! I definitely need to meet with my Filipina before even think of becoming boyfried and girlfrien 🙂 Thanks for this video Reekay 🙂

  40. I read the comments and I fully agree – Honesty and mutual agendas are a must.
    These 2 people do Not match by any aspect ; not by age, height, weight, sexual preferences, life experience , income, and of course – wanting kids.

  41. I couldn’t work on a show like that because they not helping just using people to make money.. i cant even think to watch that. I disagree that we can’t be friends after, i had 4 girls do the cut and over. All the rest i am still friends with including my x wife of 3 years. Yes honesty it the way to go, that’s what gets me in trouble in the USA. I don’t look at you much because I know life in Asia well. Good teaching you do

  42. It was equally important for the girl to ask him in the very beginning whether he wants to have a kid or not if this was so important to her ! The fault was from both the sides.

  43. Ed was not forthcoming because of 2 reasons, the first is the scarcity mindset.and his ignorance about Filipinos and children. She reminds me of a bar girl and would not surprise me if it were not in her background. The sad reality is Filipinas lie, a lot! If you find one who doesn’t, marry her. For she is a rare gem.

  44. Hello is that real or just another drama ,badly edited ?Yes of course Ed Is a lier,and she is very professional type ,on.relationship .

  45. Honestly I think she was looking for a man that was willing to stick his neck out for her and if you look at the guy obviously he ain’t got no damn neck so I think that was problem number one

  46. #1 She is a nasty little thing. Noooooo
    I also wonder how she planned to have a kid with another Filipina?
    That one is bat shit crazy lol .
    And to think there are literally millions to choose from.
    Thanks for sharing Aloha

  47. I think someone should tell this girl she can’t have babies with another woman , she seems like she can be quite aggressive , two sides to her i think .
    I don’t think wanting babies was the true reason , infact she may have been pleased he told her that so she could dump him without hurting his feelings with the real truth , also , she wasn’t 100% up front with him neither.

  48. she is the best girl i can love and have children and family with.. such a great chance and opportunity wasted.. i wish it was my chance

  49. I appreciate that you used the show as a learning tool which you did well, I have never watched this kind of program because I feel it’s all staged for the drama and I do everything I can to remove drama from my life on TV and off

  50. I saw most episodes of their “relationship” . Ed is pretty much clueless, is very inexperienced and extremely naive. There is no doubt in my mind he was totally set up by the production crew with the pig farm, rats and the like. Rose became very popular on her own after they broke up, which is a total mystery to me as I think she has a horrible personality, but this is a minority opinion.

  51. BIG ED.
    Is a huge manipulator!
    He used Rose. Lied. Played games.
    Rose is now successful in the Philippines. A model. And taking care of family. I’m happy for her.
    Big fan of 90day.

  52. Looks awkward on both sides. He’s CREEPY looking like I’m all that. He’s not stocky, he’s fat. And he acts like a little boy in high school what a goober.

  53. These scripts are written out. However, she has typical Bargirl mentality, and he is the kind of guy that ruins it for the good foreigners that want a good filipina. This is the kind of Filipina you say, “next”, and move on and never look back.

  54. Fellow bros. I wanna say something you may notlike but it needs to be said. Be a MAN. Be straight up front with ANY woman you meet from day 1. #2 guys get yourself in shape so you can be on a level playing field. Just like you have a pick of filipinas they have a pic of YOU your not the only foreigner they can choose from so NEVER EVER think youve got the upper hand in south Asia or for any country for that matter

  55. This is almost like exploiting a disabled person tbh. It’s hard to watch this guy, he is like a child inside. It’s TLC so nuff said.

    Is this a normal sounding accent for a Filipina? Do they usually speak like this? 🙂

  56. They started out with alot of misconceptions as to who each other are and what they look like. Your right bro. 10 years ago your would almost never see a filipina wearing a bikini on the beach unless they were ” open minded” but now you see then everywhere so social media has done its thing. I mean bro lets just be real here can we? Hes really out of shape and she has an agenda. This “”relationship” was doomed from the beginning.

  57. I think he should have “clocked” 500 hours at his local K-TV bar before meeting in person….classic rookie move by saying “I Love You” within the first hour (and asking for trouble). Imo.

  58. You Gotta feel for Ed. He keeps punching, but he has horrible social skills. Some of the stuff he says is very cringy. The funny thing is, they have shown pictures of him when he was younger and he is a good looking guy.

  59. Good video Reekay, and you’re right, honesty is the best policy. It’s also true she was dishonest with him about her sexual orientation, and also about contacting him after they broke up. Hopefully, Ed has learned a valuable lesson from this experience, and I think it was a blessing in disguise that Rose broke up with him.

  60. That show is rather contrived and they keep coming back to the same people which is boring. Rose dodged a bullet as Ed repeatedly lied to her, maybe she had an agenda of her own but he was deceitful from the start. There was another guy who was in his 50’s and was marrying and 18 y/o Filipina and he was a control freak. I wish 90 Day fiance did more to highlight the plusses and minuses of these relationships but instead they seem to focus on nut cases. Thanks Reekay for giving us good information.

  61. I don’t watch TV, but honestly, who starts a relationship online with lies? Vlogs about the Philippines gives a glims about what’s going on there, but everybody makes their own opinion after visiting the country // Ari JJ Jaatinen (retiree in the Philippines at the end of 2021)

  62. I’d try to get back with Rose and tell her she can have a girlfriend as long as I can watch…lol

  63. It’s not just his fault. She could have easily discussed children during their courtship. It’s a two way street.

  64. She would have accepted him, no neck and all, if he was open to kids? He should be so lucky.

  65. The whole issue is honesty. It has nothing to do with first meeting in person. It has to do with embellishments from the start. Or, being disingenuous by saying what you mean or letting your yes mean yes and your no mean no. If people were honest in the first place, a successful LDR is very possible. But, as a detective I see this all the time. False hopes and lies from the beginning.

  66. You apparently didn’t watch the whole series. He lied to her & said he was 3″ taller than he was. It wasn’t in her mind’s eye as you said, it was in her ear.

  67. I can’t tell you how long I’ve been waiting for someone familiar with life in the PH to analyze this! My wife and I talk about this show all the time. 🙂 Edit: Sent you a donation to help with production costs. Thanks again!

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