Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
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Fck it’s crazy Japanese are fck d
as soon as she said she wanted to go home, you should have been grabbing her suitcase and putting on your shoes to take her back. no delay!
I had 2 really pretty girls from the Philippines. They were working in KL.MY.
These women are really just good for a week. No way in hell they’re make good gfs.
They were sort absolutely zilch!
Never met more fake, greedy, money hungry b….s.
Worse than any Manhattan girls.
When you said she was 5’8″ tall first thing I thought was she is a ladyboy. There are some that unless you seen there bottom area you would have no clue they are one. Most Filipinos I met and talked to in Cebu are 4’11” tall or shorter.
Back in the day, girls with big brothers could make a problem like that Japanese dude created go away. Quickly. Quietly. Permanently.
Bro, her sister knew that about her but still set you up with her. It was a honey trap.
Too much baggage and trauma. See a red flag move on.
Married a pinay…. worst decision of my life… she cheated gave me an STD.. Stole the house and land… took the new car.. pissed off with a Filipino man…cleaned out the bank account… they don’t love you it’s business … understand this and protect yourself accordingly gentlemen… never get married there is no upside in marriage for a man.
I didnt watch yet. But anybidy choosing to date model or actor is in for trouble. Come on….
Reekay,
You are by nature an introspective individual.
Very self-aware and good hearted.
Most men would have become angry or confused, and would simply cut off and ran away, never bothering to know why she became hysterical.
But you decided to try to understand why this incident happened.
Again, it goes back to what you always reiterate in any relationship that is possibly headed towards commitment.
Take time and live with that person for at least 1 year.
There are no short cuts if you really want to know a person you feel and think you might want a committed relationship.
Take time, be patient, do not rush.
Thanks!
It’s an effin Cargo Cult. That’s what it is.
Is this a Philippina problem or just a human problem? Not unique to any group..next time someone says they wish to leave don’t ask so many questions…just let them leave..you can ask later..which you did
So ur the garbage handler……. Never try to save a gurl…. 1 st lesson. Wow
Moral of the story: Women are crazy and unpredictable. Stay single and just date……
nice beach resort, what’s it named?
Wisdom!
A high value man would have handled those issues with a woman if he was truly in love with her, or the potential was there for him. End of story.
While the past trauma is definitely something to consider I’m surprised that your first thought wasn’t that she realised you intended to sleep together and have sex once she arrived. My wife is a Filipina, I know that Filipinas are generally quite conservative despite what appears on social media. They aren’t all eager to jump into bed with men before being at least convinced of some long term commitment.
In today’s society we try to justify fornication bf/gf relationships. It may never be something this extreme, but there are consequences.
It’s also good that you knew her body count going into it. Girls with a lot of notches are not relationship or wife material, they will have problems bonding with you in the future. Avoid!
Same as PTSD with some Veterans.
It’s always beneficial when the crazy rises to the surface immediately so you could send her home and not waste any more time. Your buddy owes you one. NEXT!
Too many women have had awful experiences like this.
Most women come with unresolved issues. Over a period of several years I dated about 2 dozen women (two two of them for over a year each), but eventually I could see problems I could not live with over the long run. You are dead on. It takes a year of being together a lot before you can realistically assess how well you can navigate the rest of your life with someone. Now, I have been with my forever girl for over 4 years and there are no horror stories to tell. She is amazing. Just don’t rush things. I did it, and you can, too!
Better yet take 2 years and postpone sex until after you are married because if you have sex before marriage the woman will have contempt for you for the rest of your life.
what a story dude, you think her sister did not know nothing about that,? I think she did from the start, she is a model you think there where no more men, I think yes, women have their thing to catch people and you did hit that Hook head first,.
Oh man, I needed to hear this. This wasn’t with a Filipina but a Mexican in the US. We saw each other for 6 weeks, this past Sunday and I ended it last night. She was talking boyfriend after the 3rd day of knowing her and asking when I’ll marry her this past Sunday (6 weeks in) and it’s been a rocky 6 weeks! I wouldn’t wven consider the marriage talk until after a year or even 2 of a good relationship (I know we can all have some differences here or there but it’s dependent on how they’re handled and accountability) but 6 weeks of a rocky one with no accountability and never an apology? Nope.
I’m sorry for what happened to you. Base on your story you encounter someone who has personality disorder. You are lucky you got out from her. She sense that you are not the empath she is looking for. They are all over the world. You will not know this people until you have experience it as a victim. I hope it helps my statement.
I wonder if Jenny’s husband knew about any of this, and how long he dated her before bringing her to NY.
Jenny from the block
Great message! I dated a girl in the US who has been raped I think by a stranger at knife point to her throat…yeah sometimes the trama leaks out at any moment…she had done counseling …I know my Filipina has some trauma she got pregnant at 15…she does not want to tell me about her history…take your time and slow down…always great advice.
That’s great advice I would give the exact advice to any man yeah I would say you should know a woman for around a year minimum before you even think about taking it to a different level and then at least two more years after that just to make sure
Yeah, that could have been a real disaster for you. It does break my heart when people are not treated as they should be. One thing that upsets me is I’ve seen this in the West fairly frequently, and sometimes as you suggest, the woman takes it out on the next guy even though he’s completely innocent. And even worse, sometimes the lady stays with the abuser, I suspect it might be because they get addicted to an emotional high as a result of the abuse. It’s especially sad because they don’t know what they are sacrificing to stay in a dysfunctional relationship.
Women hold onto their past traumas and rarely address and resolve it thru counseling successfully so Men Must be careful as Her Past is Your Future.
Why did you break up?
A degenerate Japanese pervert, psychologically damaged this girl for life.
Shame on him.
Solid advice to men to learn about a woman’s past, it’ll save your future potential ruin.
most importantly ; you need to know how mentally ill they are ! !
Life can b very hard here & women viewed differently than the West. Children grow up w/responsibilities at young age & things like abuse, incest within family not that uncommon too.
Wow…Dr.Reekay..Listening to this makes me shake my head over the BDSM alone with the Jap guy,,,,What a Story..I guess it’s a good thing you didn’t sleep with her..This is a deep story..Wow
I Married a Filipina who had past trauma issues , she refused to get counseling. Reekay is spot on with taking time to really know the lady . I admit I rushed into my situation without really knowing her completely. Great video .
Good information. Take lots of time! Just like you would do here in the states. S
Wow what a story. Seems like you had some adventures before you settled down lol.
Nice post Reekay
Isn’t recording sex in the Philippines illegal? Or would that be for porn and for commercial purposes? Also, the bkackmail threat may be illegal over there?
What an awful experience “Jenny” went through. The aftermath must have been awful too with wondering if that Japanese was going to make for further distress. I hope that she has a great future with her American husband and that he is as decent and loving as can be.
You are probably the only person that employs men to take the time to get to know the woman before investing a ring , everyone else is just on two camps of thought 1 Filipinas are easy to date and they consider you their boyfriend quickly or #2 Filipinas are no good and point out every single negative aspect and at least you bring a balance to the conversation. Thanks again for your advice