Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
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I never have a written list when I go to the grocery store. For 50 years I put in my head generally what I want and then I get what I see. My meals cost about $3.00 each.
Another great video with what should be an expat MANDATORY message….As i have seen some truly good men and some bad ones…Sink like a rock and never listen….Nor take on data…Even though some are very erudite and even “Street Smart”…Make all sorts of blunders and mistakes and just go the Philippines as though it were “Disneyland” and there are all sorts of things to trip you up…But those that prey on the unwary and ignorant…As the “Paradise” they expect…Turns out to be a ‘Man-Trap” sometimes to no return. Good story and one to remember and refer back to….And as you said….”Be Honest With Yourself” ….As this is a basic…But most powerful statement that most never do….Hence they fail and fail again…Peace
Excellent advice – know yourself, its the age old adage. Stop deluding everybody, but most importantly yourself. Thanks for the video.
This guy’s issue is that he didn’t take his time and learn what’s out there first and then create the characteristics he wants in a woman from what’s available. Otherwise, a guy will end up like this guy continuously searching for someone that doesn’t exist. I don’t think he’ll do any better in Thailand.
Thinking more about this, it reminds me of how women in America are–always looking for that 0.01 % man who checks off all their boxes only to realise too late in life he never existed or is already taken by another woman. Those women also fail to adjust their “standards” to what’s attainable, much like this guy did when he was in the Philippines.
When in the Philippines why would anyone solely rely on dating apps full of scammers, catfishers, single mothers, and married or attached women? There are literally millions of mainly very friendly single women all around you. Just cold approach. This guy has NO courage! In Australia we call them a whimp!
The Philippines is not for him. Either is Thailand. Staying on each island for only a week expecting to find his woman? He is a delusional dreamer.
Forget the dating apps; The best girls I’ve met in the Philippines were at yoga class, and working as the receptionists at my condo down at the juristic office.
Bias confirmation–you called it.
Why they use the word Expat? Aren’t Americans immigrants when they move to another country?
Rekay, u could be a great investigator
ANOTHER GOOD VLOG
That guy you described had no chance. His criteria was way too picky. It’s extremely hard to find a professional here who speaks good English with stimulating conversation. Like you said, it’s not hard to find a good Filipina if you lower your standards. Most Filipinas are poor with limited english. The irony is if he just wanted to play around he very easily could have found a filipina to do that too.
He ain’t finding it in Thailand.
The dating sites should ONLY be to meet and chat with women so when you are “Boots on the Ground” and Best is too “Network” as I came several times and knew enough that if I engaged intimately i would have committed myself in the Filipinas eyes. Meet people and even go on dates but be respectful enough to wait or have some restraint. pick either a place or the lady as 99% of the time since Family is so important if she has a decent relationship with them then she will Want to live near them ! So if she lives in the Province and you Don’t want to live there then Don’t cause resentments and find one in the locale you want to live in. Then Look where she or her friends and/or family hang out. Go and tour the courthouse if looking for a Lawyer or judge, go to a Hospital if looking for a nurse, or doctor or i even met a doctor who hit on me during an eye exam as she found me funny and intelligent asking if i was free for coffee. Go to a bookstore if you want someone who is well read and can speak English well. In other words Go where the Fish are if you are fishing as you don’t find fish while hunting or at a sports event. Just like finding other expats is easy as all you do is go to restaurants and stores that cater to them.
One afternoon?? It took you 7 years?!? Can you tell us why?
good advice. I love all your AI girls, they are so much prettier to look at than real girls! LOL!
I believe the clinical expression is “confirmation bias.”
You can get the high income girl, working a great job. But you sit down with them find out that there just space in her head. You need test her, talk about things that dose not involve all about your relationships, your going have to deal with her the rest of your life, do you really want a person who whole world around tictok dance videos
I just want to buy a house for someone, then give them the rest of my money. Only then would I know if she really loved me. .
Thanks you for the real life story. While we all shake our heads in disbelief, we should also keep in mind that we are susceptible to making this type of mistake. Your advice to sit with one’s self for an afternoon is spot on. It often takes more than one afternoon. It is counterintuitive, but understanding one’s true self can be hard. That can sound silly because we tend to think something like “of course I know the real me — I am me, how can I not know?” The reality is there are parts of our lives that we can’t understand clearly without quiet self-reflection. You are right: taking the time to understand our true desires is an investment that will pay huge dividends in time, money, and emotional energy.
Reekay really? you make it sound so easy like the bank thing. Places like that especially banks have rules about exchanging personal numbers or dating customers. I would be surprised if meeting a nurse in a hospital would be any different. Human resources departments just have rules about not allowing that type of fraternizing with customers/patients. Of course it’s possible to happen if if all happens on the DL and you get lucky. But not the way you describe it. Guaranteed. I’ve tried it. And I can operate smoothly. I’m not crass, loud, too aggressive or forward, disrespectful, impolite etc.
You nailed it again! This guy has set his standards so high that no woman will every meet those standards and it gives him the reason to keep playing the field. I went through this in my younger years where no woman was ever going to meet my expectations. I met several beautiful women with a great heart that would have made great wives. I passed on all of them. I hope they have great lives now. More than likely, he will not find what he is looking for in Thailand either.
Once again Reekay, you nailed it! There are many foreigners, myself included that have a list of requirements in whom they want to date and possibly marry. If someone is looking for a pretty to beautiful, slender, morena girl, they can find them wandering around anywhere in the Philippines. If your list gets longer and are looking for a professional woman, then you have to go where they congregate. Like you have said many times, they are busy working six days a week and don’t have time to be wandering around. I have found that the girls working in the malls, banks, hospitals, or nice stores tend to be on the pretty to beautiful end of the spectrum and have pretty good English skills. I think you said best when you tell guys to be creative. They are not going to fall in your lap. Keep up the great work. You are doing and have always done a great service to the men watching your channel!!!
Fantastic advice as usual Reekay! I like your example of the bank co-worker, in the US it would be pretty much unheard of to try something like that but people here are just kind and helpful. Such a refreshing change. It’s important to pursue what you’re really looking for, because eventually you may find her and if you’ve already settled for someone else it’s preventable angst.
Absolutely! 800% when you’ve already made the decision, everything else is just wasting time.
Excellent advice. Pretending to be interested in opening a bank account in order to meet tellers is some dating delta force level tactics.
You put me on the spot, i respect that
Well if he wants an older woman with a degree he should try the United States. There’s lots of old women with degrees and lots of cats. Lol
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“Be honest with yourself”…. Excellent Points …great show!
Bias Confirmation …. And Failure Avoidance Behaviors
You’re conducting an informal Functional Behavioral Assessment to discover what root drives the behavior. Which may be the same or vastly different to what he SAYS is his reason!
Sry but if he doesnt really want a woman then why waste all this time travelling and purposly getting nowhere?
Well said.
The guy or the expat should have asked you for the street called( How Much Street) everyone knows where that street is located at normally
Funny that he wants a professional but has no clue to go to those type of businesses.
One of the 48 Ways to Wisdom is “b’vinat ha-lev” with understanding of the heart. The rabbi who taught me about it said it’s important to know what you are living for and what you want out of life. You can bye a bus ticket and just get on a bus and take it wherever it goes, or you can have a goal in mind and get on the bus going that way. You’ll get there faster if you set out a course of action.
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