Author: Reekay V.
Since 2012 I’ve been traveling through various islands of the Philippines as a full-time Expat and spent 1999 living in Vietnam.
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Hi Reekay! Sad tales, but pretty much foreseeable. At least, since I’m not the one “in love.” The “ladyboy” thing is a fear of mine. The adams apple is no longer a reliable sign.
Surf was a little loud on this one… hope your hut isn’t sinking!
Problem is that whites think all men are born equal. But when was the last time they were at a grocery with a Kennedy. For the retirement fund they come with they are upper middle class. Why do they go with such low class women? Women a local in their economic standing would not look at at all. Women screaming ‘low class’. Even the girlie bars are filled with women locals won’t date. Locals have bars that whites don’t go to and the girls there are 10x prettier.
Foreigners can’t own land in the Philippines. Condos yes, but land with house- no.
What a dork.
Enjoyed Ricky! There’s an Azzz for every seat…..Wether it’s the P.I. or the US. Peace/Cheers
How does such an idiot get a hold of so much money?
After hearing this… someone graduated from pendejo university!!
I’ve been with my Filipina for almost five years now and she still won’t ask me for anything
I’m from hongcouver and have dated a lot of Asian women. I no longer date them. Asian women are all business, no soul.
I hate people that use other people. I hate when Filipinas do it to gullible westerners and I hate when westerners do it to Filipinas. It makes my blood boil.
Reekay- what the best amount of days to fire up Tinder/PinaLove from America before a first visit the Phils? 2 weeks? 1 month? 2 months?
Imagine how many men have done the same thing or worse as guy #1, but are too embarrassed to share the story.
Excellent words of wisdom spoken and in most cases I agree and have practiced this in my relationship. But I must say you can meet that special someone online, fall in love without ever meeting in person.
Late 2019 and after visiting with a few ladies and several red flags, I did meet the loveliest woman on CF, with the intention meeting her in person soon. But the dreaded Covid hit, flights were canceled. Throughout this time we were able to straighten our relationship though many different ways. Our family’s celebrated holidays and birthdays together via video call along with other special events.
We were able to set up date nights, she would go to a nice restaurant there and I would choose one here, sharing our meals together via video calls.
We talked night and day until I was finally able to visit in 2022, after Covid.
Although that was our first in person meeting, we felt as if we’d been together for years.
My siblings, my children and grandchildren thank the world of this woman that they’ve known for years but have never met in person.
So saying all of this I believe if you are able to find that special one, you can fall in love without first physically meeting in person.
I must add in closing that through this time, not once did she ask for anything, even when I’d offer to pay for our date nights, she insisted that she had moneys.
I loved this woman well before we met in person and our love has only strengthened over the years, even after spending time together in person. At this time we’re waiting for the approval of her K-1 visa.
LIke I always say, these are the guys that have ruined a lot of Filipiinas. Now Filipina’s think all foreign guys have money to give them.
I guess P.T. BARNUM was right.
Wow. #1 Talk about a numb nuts Beta male sending money, for that long, for naught.
#2. Amazing how dumb foreigners can be.
#3. Dude….really? You got hosed bro.
Unbelievable.
A+
Most Filipinas get away with it because Foreigners believe they have no Legal Rights….or let them away with it!
There are plenty of videos about Topic e.g. https://youtu.be/tctl86ynTHM?si=rafZ-Lgy4Qw8Qkrw
No point in listening to guys moaning about being scammed when they’re unwilling to do anything about it!!
Most don’t even consider Pre-Nups
( https://youtu.be/lqjCnEdc_FM?si=5Hy4zMiGyskxeb88 ) thengo around expecting people to feel sorry for them!
Very seldom do you see the Question “What can I do about being scammed?”!
This is what happens when the relationship between men and women dies.
Western men are so scorned and emasculated they are dazzled by the first woman to give them some attention devoid of that ubiquitous western feminine toxicity. I feel bad for these poor souls that are throwing away their money, but I feel worse for the men that are not able to get out of America.
JFC imagine traveling to the other side of the world to simp more. I’m embarrassed for them. Gross.
Who CARES, you guys are SUCKERS and LOSERS
Hard to say no to a pretty girl that you are emotionally attached to.
As the old saying goes – A fool and his money are easily parted
Amazed how some folks ignore red flags for attention. Such an abundance of women there and his mindset lost him that hard earned money
what would be an average age of these philipinas that scammed some guys? i met my philapina on line. Went to philippines to meet her and her children. I was invited to stay with her, and stayed three months. We worked on getting her visa, and she came to the U S with me. We then planned the wedding and got married. I did this the wrong way based on your advise, so I guess I am very lucky it turned out good for me. She is now 51, and I’m 78. I love the 2 youngest children, and they love and see me as papa. We are having a tough time with home land security. it has been aggravating, and have had some set backs because of covid. At this point, the children are awaiting their visas, and will soon be with us. Her 4 adult children prefer to stay in the Philippines. I am happy and lucky guy I didn’t end up like some other guys getting screwed by Philippina. I did view the advice “life by the sea” before going to the philippines. I hope I have put some help for others. I would say, go to the Philippines first and check things out before meeting your first Philipina. There are tons of them. Don’t get in a hurry. Thanks for reading.
Guys, we are the ones in control. We are the ones who dictates how everything is gonna work. My way or the highway is my motto
I wonder how many of these passport bros are just going to get played by Filipinas like these guys? They get so locked into the fantasy, ignore all the red flags and lose thousands! The guy in the Korean husband story is so infatuated he won’t let the fantasy go and admit he has been conned big time.
I could understand their naivete if they were teenage boys. But these are all probably mature men who must have seen and heard of many horror stories like these , or maybe they think that Filipinas would never pull the shit that American Women pull routinely. If a woman anywhere in the world tries to get you to send them money, that means she is a scammer and you should drop her immediately. There are lots of honest, upright women in Asia, I married one of them and we have been happily married for 46 years. She never asked me for 1 dollar before we got married. The best way to be sure is to assume that all of them are scheming until they prove they are genuine.
When you think you heard it all my goodness. Always enjoyed your content Henry
I used to go full throttle on stupid in front of pretty girls when I was young. Lord help any expat who didn’t learn that lesson before moving to the Phils
Well. He’s be played
Shea telling him what he wants to hear
Wrong head thinking
Male thirst is a bottomless pit. Men need to learn to do better. Sad how easily some guys get taken.
Wow- seems there is no end to stupid ex-pats loosing money to lying women. Job security for YouTubers anyway. Biggest pitfalls sound like on-line “relationships” and giving money to a Filipina for a house in her name, while unmarried or worse, remotely. Bad enough that they can cheat you in person after a couple months but blindly trusting them w your money in an LDR is incredibly stupid as you point out. How many morons have to fall for this before its common knowledge to avoid? As long as there are suckers like that woman will turn into scammers and milk them. Maybe you are saving many by keeping these stories out here I hope. The cost of stupid is high and encourages deception. Saying “no” is a great test and check to find out what they’re made of and motives in knowing you. I hear this from many vloggers.
Know yourself worth. The first time someone asks for money block and delete. Not hating but how can you have a serious relationship when you’ve never met a person. They can pretend to be whatever or whoever online. People need to be vetted and you need to spend quality time and don’t be in a hurry.
The 1st guy should just step off the roof of a 20 story building; he’s such an IDIOT. The 2nd guy should join the 1st guy on the roof, and then they can hold hands and jump off together….
Didn’t P.T Barnum say that there’s a sucker born every minute.
Most such cases stem from thinking with the wrong head. Such susceptible men tend to be desperate and dreamers who are so fixated on ‘finding true love’ that they convince themselves that the Philippines is some magical land that ‘fixes’ all their problems and makes all their dreams of ‘love and romance’ come true.
Having a background in law enforcement, I’d learned early on that people have the ability to to incredibly great things in life and amazingly stupid things. The ability of some to convince themselves to act or do things, with what most would clearly see as an utter lack of common sense, is simply astounding.
I am 100% agree with your accessments and methods of handling those situations. I would go further to absolutely not to engage relationship at all. Just do st.
Money comes and goes, but time is irreplaceable. He lost move than three years of his life with his foolish decisions.
Can you give the geographic origin of these guys. Maybe there stupidity can be isolated and the water could be blamed.
My most common word when I’m dating is NO. I learned long ago the older one is the less risk someone can take. I keep this in mind. Before I left to SE Asia l asked myself, what is it I want most? It was easy to answer. Peace old mind. Before I make anh decision I ask myself will this lead to more peace of mind or less. That makes it simple. Thanks Reekay
HI HENRY, THANKS FOR THE FANTASTIC WARNING!,,,keep the stories coming in they are great advice!
About 8 years ago, South of Cebu near Carcar, my girl and I was invited to visit a neighbor, a Filipina living with an Australian guy. We visited for awhile, nice couple. A few days later, walking by their house, I asked: “Who’s the Filipino guy?” My girl said: “Oh, that’s her lover. When the Aussie leaves for Australia, he moves in with her, then leaves when the Aussie comes back.” So many scams. The one I liked the best was: “During Covid, I married an American online.” Yes, this actually was NOT uncommon. Well, supposedly the fellow was injured in a tragic accident and will never recover enough to come to visit. Soooo… “All I need is 100,000 peso, my Aunt knows this lawyer and he guarantees that I’ll get a legal divorce.” Nice girl on the surface, but a scammer. Legal divorces start at about 1 million peso and even then, it’d take years.
Connecting online is so fraught with risk. 80% are “hunting,” and you are the “prey.” And, it’s often not the girl, but a family member in the background coaching the girl, I’ve seen Aunts (including Aunties who are not family) literally “setting up a girl for a Green card.”
The older you are, the wealthier you are, the higher the risk. How to reduce risk: Tell them: “I don’t have much money,” (make yourself economically “comfortable,” but not wealthy) + I’m moving to the Philippines (so no, you can never come to America). *Poof* you just had 95% of scammers that you meet determine they have NO interest in you. (which is what you want). Now, sort though the remaining 5% who want a “better life,” but is willing to give a lot in return. So many stories of guys taken advantage of.
This stuff is like love after lockup.
As the Filipina pea once said in dealing with infatuation with a Filipina… that is your fantasy talkin
Gonna be a careful butterfly!
Oh dear. Oh dear…. some men are a bit dumb.
The first guy is the biggest simp I’ve ever heard of.
Keep the brains above the belt line. Hard to do, I know.