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Hello folks, I am well and truly green when it comes to all things Filipina and dating in particular. I started looking into the possibility / prospect of meeting and finding a genuine asian partner about 6 weeks ago. In that time I quickly found myself gravitating towards Filipina ladies.
My general plan has / was to meet and filter a few potentially nice ladies through online dating sites and to make a holiday trip that included meeting and to go from there. I think I have approached with a fairly level head and running across Henry on you tube helped to reaffirm the optimistic but cautious approach.
I have allowed myself to converse with a large number of people and to let the interactions filter themselves as a natural process where I click with people. This has led to becoming quite friendly with a lady that lives on the Island of Mindanao; specifically in the South Cotabato region. I am sure anyone at all familiar with the Philippines will know of the travel warnings and danger to foreigners from millitant groups.
My question or request for advice is that I have come to learn about the cultural importance of family and how that operates compared to where I come from in Australia. I really like this person but am wondering about the logistical realities in conducting a relationship where her family resides in that region and I don't wish to risk visiting that area.
She is a school teacher and has agreed to meet me elsewhere during their break in april / may. I haven't asked her outright but would it be expected or an obligation for me to meet the family if we were to become serious?
Sounds like you're going about things in the right way. Its always a good idea to meet the family if for no other reason than to know her better. That doesn't mean you need to go there. Its not too expensive to bring them to you even if they fly. More importantly you will impress her and show how serious you are by asking to meet her family. My thought only.... Good luck !
I have had communications with a few ladies that have lasted a number of weeks but it always seems like they become very emotionally attached, possessive and almost stalkerish long before I have learned enough about them. It becomes very difficult to ask sensitive questions once you learn that it upsets them to think you don't trust them 100% already.
With the lady I mentioned above; I have remained friendly and trying to learn more about her. I have not expressed any commitment other than I would like to meet her and get to know her better. I have also not introduced any overt sexual content.
Since this post she sprung a new one on me. As I was signing off for bed after chatting for a while she said "can i ask you one question before you go to sleep?" I said sure.
"When you visit and we meet can we try to have a baby?" This is from a 38 year old school teacher and we have never met!
That def threw me. It made me wonder how rational she was and if my spending time chatting to people was unfair to them? I have tried to maintain an open mind about things but I have made a conscious decision to not spend as much time chit chatting. With other people I try to ask all the important questions upfront and then decide to keep in contact after that at friendly contact level.